Complicated Girlfriend Situation?

Question

Okay, here's the whole story.

3 years ago, when I was 14, I met a girl who was 18. We made a huge mistake and had cybersex. We got over that and became best friends, but my mother found out and now hates her. Even with my mother hating her, my trying to kill myself, her failing college, us fighting over my coming out as transgender, her moving, and various other obstacles, we've stayed best friends. Over the summer we decided to become romantically involved. We've now been together for about a month and a half. The thing is, the relationship started with her in Maine and me in Massachusetts. I thought I would be alright with the long distance. I was okay with it until monday when she came to visit. Monday was the first day we saw each other and the first time we kissed and now that she's gone again I'm going cazy missing her. I don't know what to do. I'm starting to want to date other people and I know that it's just because I want HER to be here, but I'm also feeling like I can't bear to date her if I'm going to miss her this much. Any suggestions? If I break up with her I both lose the opportunity to ever date her again and maybe my best friend, but if I stay will I always feel miserable?

Answer 1

WHY would she refuse to be your friend if you two came to an agreement that being committed to each other is a silly waste of time?  You barely know each other as lovers, so what would make that so hard to change?

You NEED to date other people - you are way too young to stop being a kid right now.  Just keep being friends and see what happens in about 4 years down the road.  Things could radically change for the better - who knows.  

Answer 2

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS  HARDLY EVER LAST,,WHY CANT U MOVE WERE SHE LIVES ,,AND I F U CANT I THINK U OUGHT TO SET HER FREE,,SO SHE CAN DATE OTHER GUYS,,AND JUST MAYB U WILL REMAIN FRIENDS,,PEACE