Complicated case... What to do?

Question

I'm married, but I've fell in love with my best friend. We started a relation. My husband knows and has accepted it since I don't leave him. "My bf" was never comfortable with this situation and has always had plans to find a real gf with who he can marry, but he kept our relationship. He promised he would not look for any other girl, but he was afraid about what would happen if he would fall in love with someone else.

As our relation was a secret, his family still thinks he has never had a gf before and right now he is moving out, so he is being asked about a gf often. I've helped him with his new home, from buying it till decorating.

Now, exactly 1 week after he moved out, he came to tell me he did kiss a girl, friend of his brother, who arranged a date for him. That he has always had interest for that girl, he knew it would happen but never told me. He asked to be a normal friend, but I've always said I couldn't be just his friend anymore after all that happened.

What to do now?

Answer 1

You cannot live with one man and hope your boyfriend will accept that. Any normal person eventually wants 100%. If you cannot give yourself 100% then you cannot expect him to accept your terms.

Perhaps in reality he was happy not to have 100% of you and now the time has come for him to move on?

Answer 2

well my advice for you is that you have a husband that loves and cares for you so much that he wont leave you even though he knows you are cheating on him. i advice that you wise up and treat your husband with the utmost respect he deserves. no offense but people sometimes disgust me.

Answer 3

Your best friend was obviously just using you. Try to save your marriage now, and please remember your spouse is the one who should be your best friend. If the marriage doesn't please you then get out and find someone else, because your husband deserves better.