Concerned about being alone at bus stop as two guys in car creep me out?

Question

Okay, I'm a fourteen year old girl who rides the bus in the mornings to school. My bus comes at 9:10 in the morning, but I'm usually up there by 8:45,.

My bus stop is at the front of the neighborhood, next to a busy road. Only me and two other girls ride the bus. They are the same age as me. My dad usually is the only adult up there, as he refuses to let me stand next to a busy road alone.

Well, there have been two guys in a white truck that always drive by with their lawn equipment trailer behind them. They looked our way and started laughing.

But one day, when I was standing on the other side of the road, I noticed the man leaning his head out of the window and looking at ME, not all three of us, and kept his head out of the window watching me until they turned around the bend. Once, again, didn't think anything of it.

Now, every day I've road the bus, the man is always leaning his head out the window and staring at me. Sometimes he smiles as he drives by, or he will wave. It creeps me out, because it doesn't seem like he's being polite or anything, and it seems more like he's taunting me.

I'm getting scared now, because now my dad is getting a new job where he won't be able to walk me up to the bus stop in the morning, and the two girls who stand with me aren't always there. There will be no adult.

The two men always give me this feeling in my gut that I should run away or something.

With how crazy our world is, I'm scared that they might try to do something if my dad isn't there, and I'm just standing all alone.

Our neighborhood also is at a bend, where the front of the neighborhood is exposed, but there are a bunch of trees that block sight to any houses.

I haven't told anyone because I'm probably just freaking out over nothing, and I'm probably just making a mountain out of an ant hill. I thought about having my dad drive me, but he is going to be working in the mornings, so I can't.

No weapons allowed on school campus, so no pepper spray or anything that would help me feel safer.

Help?

Answer 1

As an adult I can say that you have every reason to be "creeped out". You say you have not told anyone. You should! If you have a bad feeling about something you should go with your gut on this. Please tell your father about it. He will figure out something. It sounds like he is a very protective father, and he will help.

Answer 2

It could be nothing. But yeah I do see why you feel a little scared. Have your mobile with you!

Answer 3

if you really feel that uncomfortable, get someone to buy some pepper spray and keep it somewhere where it's easily reached, just in case you get your personal space invaded.

Answer 4

Tell your dad & a teacher. If there's a company name/phone number on the trailer/truck ~ make a note of it & give this to your dad/teacher also ~ sounds as if they are on their way to work in the mornings when you see them.

Don't make contact with them verbally or anything.

Is there another bus stop within walking distance you could use in the mornings? If so, use this one instead.

Sad to think that 14 year olds are having to deal with this kind of stuff ~ but trust your instincts ~ if something doesn't seem right ~ tell someone you trust.

Do your parents know anyone who lives in any of the houses behind the bus stop? ~ maybe they could ask them to keep an eye on you from their house in the mornings while you are waiting for the bus.

Ask one of the other girls that gets on the bus with you, if one of their parents would mind walking them to the bus stop in the mornings & waiting till the bus arrives.

Answer 5

I would tell your father and/or your teacher at school your concerns.  You could possibly be freaking out over nothing, but regardless you are scared and two grown men really have no right to scare any young girl like yourself.  And what happens if you arent just freaking out and these guys are really some kind of creeps that could hurt you or someone else.

Once you tell your father or teacher maybe they can do something about getting a crossing guard or someone set at the bustop in the morning.  

Answer 6

Have you told your dad about this?  I think he would find a way to keep you safe if you feel there is a problem.  Or talk to the school about getting the bus stop moved.  Even a street over might make a difference.  Good luck.  and if your gut tells you to run like h**l, do it.  don't hesitate.  

Answer 7

Oh dear...it's sad that at the age of 14 you have to be thinking about c**p like this, but such is the world we live in.

Never, and I mean NEVER, disregard your instincts.  I am alive today because of mine.  If you've seen the news recently about the military guy that the president just signed an approval to execute...

Many years ago, I was inches away from him face to face through my car window- he was offering to help me with directions, but a "creepy feeling" led me to drive away without opening my window-

Less than two hours later, his face was staring at me again...

This time on the t.v. as a "breaking news" story- he had just been arrested on the same street where I had just seen him (he lived there) - and he had raped 8 or 9 women and murdered 4.

He told them that he "got' most of his victims by offering help or assistance in some way.

Needless to say, that changed my attitude forever about those "creepy feelings" or more accurately "instincts."

Explain to your Dad what you explained here.  If it's paranoia, it's still better to be safe.  The alternative, if your instincts are accurate, may result in you never having another opportunity to make any decision.

Ideally, maybe there are some adults in the neighborhood who would be willing and able to keep a watch in the morning - maybe an older brother, another parent, or even a retiree who is up early.  

If people are aware of the situation in advance, at least they have an opportunity to observe the situation and react if warranted.  Make a note of the vehicle, the license number, and as much descriptive information as you can.  An adult might decide to take a picture or actually confront the guy if they feel it appropriate.

It's also possible that he's just a kind-hearted person, and you remind him of a niece or child of his own.  He could just be actually demonstrating concern and kind of checking out the area around you guys because he worries about you being out there.

Whichever the case, your safety comes first.  Tell an adult, and you might want to talk with your Dad about enrolling you in a self-defense course or martial arts class as well.

  

Answer 8

is there a business name on the truck? sounds like they work for a landscape company. make note of the name of the business. look for a logo on the truck, or even on the mowers or other equipment in the trailer. write down the make and color of the truck as well as the license plate #.

if anything does happen, this will make it easier for the police to hunt them down. also, when you are working on doing something about the danger it helps you to not be afraid. do you have house keys? keys can be used to gouge eyballs if you are attacked,and the school can't tell you you aren't allowed to have your keys. be prepared to fight back with your purse,books pencils etc. be prepared and you won't be so afraid.