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(Condom for man, or Pill for woman) on wedding night?

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im getting married soon and i've been wondering if i should wear a condom, or if she should take a birthcontrol pill. keep in mind we are both virgins.

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woww--- tell her to start taking birth control... unless you guys want kids
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Good for you for being responsible and thinking about this.

A condom does not guarantee she doesn't get pregnant.

Birth control pills aren't guaranteed either.

Keep in mind that birth control pills must be taken for several months in order for her body to get used to them.  And, they're hormones.  Different women respond differently, so effectiveness varies.

Personally, I'd recommend condom and foam.  It's easy to use, easy to buy, doesn't require a prescription, and done correctly is very effective.

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I think she should get a depo shot i have been on it for 9 months and have had no problems, this will be the first time having intercourse for both of you so i think using a condom would ruin the experiance a bit id rather be able to feel all of my partner rather than having to use a condom that makes you loose some of the feeling
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If it's anything like myself and my friends, you won't need either because you will be too TIRED to do anything! Trust me, a wedding WEARS YOU OUT! Congratulations and good luck!
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if you are not planing on having children for a while I would recommend that you look in to an IUD it can not be forgotten or broken one trip to have it put in and its good for 5 years or until you take it out
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well if its soon then you should wear a condom, as the birth control will take time to start working. I usually give it a month to be safe. But if she is comfortable with birth control then you guys should defiently get her on it soon. Just to be safe. and congrats you two for being virgins. Enjoy your wedding night!
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i know how you feel my girlfriend and i are remaining virgins untill our wedding night but i perosnly wouldnt use either becuase haveing kids isn't the end of the world just go for it if your fience is anything like my girlfirend then she wouldn't get mad if she gets pregnant becuse my girlfirend wants to have at least 2 kids but no more then 4 good luck
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use both its the safest bet u have. the pill doesnt always work and condoms can break. but if u use both u have like.1% of getting prego
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That depends on how soon you want to have kids. If soon, then just use a condom. If you need long-term birth prevention, use the pill .Plus if you are getting married relatively soon, the pill probably won't work. It can take up to a few months to kick in properly.
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Both. If you are getting married very soon, it can take a couple of weeks, even up to a couple of months for the Pill to kick in properly, so dont rely entirely upon that. Also, why put it all on the girl? If you dont wanna get her pregnant, use both and you have much less chance its gonna happen!

Edit - congrats for both staying virgins, too! :)
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If your celibate the main reason would be because of religious reasons.. so i'm looking at it from the point where the catholic church says- no s*x before marriage and no contraception. So... s*x after marriage.... but yes there is contraception hahaha. Sorry i find that mad =P Not that i'm religious or anything just find it strange.

Yeah she should go on the pill a week or so before hand to be safe and you should use condoms and if you want to be extra sure, spermicide.
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you both should. but really its a choice that the 2 of you need to make together. and Kudos about both being virgins! it great to hear a story where people actually respect themself enough to wait till they are married.
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Why both? And is she on the pill already? It is not something you can take for one night she'll have to be on the pill before you get married.
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It feels better if you don't wear a condom.

Remember to consider the diaphragm and the sponge. Their effectiveness, when properly used, is equal to condoms and the pill.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-...

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/birth...
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u both should protect urselves from pregnancy. the pill takes sum time to kick in so if she didn't start soon enuf and u forgot guess what will happen in 9 months. good luck man! and congrats on the extra special wedding nite!!!
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WHY NOT BOTH?
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Well, if 9 months after your wedding, you want to be having your first kid, then go unprotected. You should talk to your fiance. It can't hurt to do both. Also, some women cannot take the pill, so you really need to talk to her to see how she feels about it. Are you worried about getting her pregnant or STD's or both? Just because you are both virgins, doesn't mean that she can't get pregnant on the wedding night.

Good luck!
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Ok why do you want those thing when you'll be married then, I'm guessing you don't want children as yet,well go with the condom the pill aren't really healthy, even they say its ok but the pills have disaffects and and long term damage so go with a condom just use a good brand like Rough Rider, Trojan or Durex.
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Virginity has no bearing on the birth control method.

If she doesn't have enough time to get the Pill sufficiently in her system, then I suggest condoms & some type of spermicide foam or gel to be used along with it. Or possibly a Diaphram
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