Confidance and assertiveness,and i have at times a real?

Question

problem with being assertive,particularly with some female friends as i dont want to upset them and i value their company alot,and it maybe cause i feelings for them and would do alot for them,but i feel it makes an uneven relationship

Answer 1

Try to stop letting your feelings control you. Women like assertive men but they also like them to be sensitive like yourself. You need to get the balance right.

Also maybe it's time to work on your assertiveness for yourself and not just to attract the ladys. Once you have inner confidence and build on that you will appear more attractive in general because you aren't just doing it for somebody to like you

Answer 2

Focus and balance are the keys to these issues I think. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Google a short piece called Desiderata. It has all these answers you need & much more.

Best wishes. UK

Answer 3

it does because you dont feel as if you are equal as them.try just relaxing and stop trying to pleaze others and worry about yourself a little more.probly you have feelings for your friends and you think they dont have the equal share of feelings for you.try treating everyone with the respect you treat yourself.and dont act like someone you arent.be real and be yourself and the people that dont like you do not deserve a good person like you