Confidence... how do i get it?

Question

I feel taht in myself i aint really confident...! i put on a front to certain ppl that i am but deep down i aint... i need to feel confident so i can attract positive ppl around me!......Any handy advice on how to do this...?

Answer 1

there are courses that you can take in order to feel more confident!

i personally think your first fault is that you got it locked in your mind that you lack confidence. But rather you should be thinking that i could improve it!

Practice makes it perfect so try some exersizes like talking to random stranger etc

good luck

Answer 2

No one is 100% confident about themselves, unless they are the dictator of country. Sometimes its about telling yourself that it doesn't matter whether you make mistakes. Sometimes its about not caring how other people judge you.

You should try and explore your personality, and learn to accept yourself as a valuable individual.

Answer 3

Confidence and self esteem go hand in hand, so what you really want is self esteem. You need to make yourself believe that you are a really cool person. If you believe this, then confidence will follow. Rather than being worried at what other people think of you, you will think 'If I go and talk to that person, they are going to find out that I am such an amazing person' it sounds big headed and egotistical I know, but that's what you need to do. And the funny thing is, you can get the most average person in the world, but if they walk up to you, with their head held high, a big smile on their faces, you too will believe that they are AMAZING! Think back to your school days, think about that person in your class that everyone wanted to be. If you look at old photos, I bet she's not even that pretty, she's just an average girl. But everyone wanted to be her because she stood tall, she gave out this aura that she thought she was amazing, and therefore everyone else did too.I bet when she was at home alone at night, she probably didn't think that much of herself. This is what you need. Don't think about what others think, just know in yourself that you are an incredible person. If you start to believe it, and stand tall with your head held high, and take risks without considering the minor consequences, then others will start to believe it too, and you will feel a lot more confident.