Confidence issues?!?

Question

Im 13 and i have some confidence issues. My friends tell me im pretty but i still dont think i am, and it makes me upset to look close up at my face. My best friend has been out with like a gizzilion guys and iv never been out with any, and im worried ill never have a boyfriend :( I have blue eyes, brown hair, pale-ish skin, some freckles, and a nose like indiana evans. It is getting so i dont want to go anywhere because im so worried about what people will think of me. How can i get more confident??? no mean comments thanks. :) xx

Answer 1

Try to join some sports and dont worry people are just to intimated by your looks maybe to ask you out.

Answer 2

You just have to take in account that you are only 13.  No I am not saying you are too young or anything, but you will notice that as you get older you will come into your own.  You sound very pretty to me.  You still have a lot of growing and changing to do, so don't worry about it too much and enjoy being young.  In a few years you will have a whole new mess of worries. :)

Answer 3

u're just going through a phase, honey! relax, the world isn't constantly looking for new people with low self-esteem to make fun of. you should start enjoying ur life, go out with your friends, make new ones, don't make the same mistake i did. i'm 18 and i have a single true friend. i'm not very outgoing and my social life is solid proof of that. don't be so hard on yourself. try wearing some makeup, a little eyeshadow, nothing drastic. do stuff that makes you feel good about yourself, like get your hair done, your nails, go shoppin for a cute outfit, you can join a club, whatever you like.

just please, please, don't let your teenage years suck. take care and don't be afraid to be confident.

p.s. i've ALWAYS dreamt of having blue eyes :(

Answer 4

The average American woman lives to age 83 so you have plenty of time for boyfriends - it only takes a year to date, be engaged and get married.  The fact that your friend has dated many guys sounds a bit abnormal to me unless she's 16-17 so, if I were you, I wouldn't be too anxious to follow in her footsteps.  Think about it - she gets bored easily, doesn't know what she wants, or the boys dating her have the same issues.  Doesn't this sound like a waste of time to you?  It's important to not date anyone until you decide what type of boy you want to give your time to.  It seems more important to focus on your studies until you feel you're ready to begin dating for the right reasons, not because a friend or friends are dating.    Anything worth having is worth waiting for so, it's better to wait and aim high for someone intelligent and sensible.  

Your friends wouldn't tell you that you're pretty if they didn't, really, think so and few faces look good in close-up!  Haven't you heard about the actors and actresses who want to preview what the t.v. screen will show when they are seen in high-definition and want the right to refuse the showing of a film if they feel it's unflattering to them?    

You know ... when you pair pretty with smart, you have the best of both worlds and this is what the Best Guys are looking for (but, usually, not until they're about 17).  I speak from experience as I began my junior year in h-s when I was 14 but had to wait until 15 to start dating - by then, I had a choice from among the Best of the Best in the senior class (those who didn't, already, have a girlfriend, of course!).  

The best way to develop confidence is to spend more time examining your good points, stop comparing yourself to others and realize that looks, really, aren't everything.  It's far more important to be a kind person who has a sincere interest in other people but, if you become a hermit who decides to not go anywhere because you're so concerned about your looks, I can 100% guarantee that you won't attract anyone worth attracting. Spending time with friends to develop your personaility is a necessity - nothing happens overnight as much as we, sometimes, wish it would.  Neither Hillary Clinton nor Barbara Walters became who they are between the ages of 13 and 15 - did they?  Plants need time to grow - it's the same with people so try to learn to be patient with yourself.  If you're not sure what your good points, or bad points are, ask each of your friends to use just one positive word to define you plus one negative word. Remember both (!) then apply yourself to building on the positives and improving the negatives  

Answer 5

Um from now on when you look in the mirror point out the good things about yourself and never point out your flaws because if you do others will too.. confidence is not really something you can ask for you have to truly want it and go for it... even if that mean a little make up here and there do what makes YOU feel good not what you think may make others feel good! :) okay :) hope i helped!!

Answer 6

The description of yourself sounds really beautiful. I'm not trying to be nice. Be yourself and think of yourself as beautiful and everyone else will.

Good luck!