Conflict with my bro?

Question

My bro is 14 yrs old. I'm 20 yrs old.

I feel very sad on today because i argue with my brother just now. Since i'm too busy for my work, i can't really pull out some free time help him format his computer. Then, he say when i do really free time it will be after 2 months (in fact, i will be free after 2 months). Then, i scolded him, i say i need to study... and you keep annoying me by spam NUDGE me(chatting in MSN).. and then my bro say he will be not disturb me again.. and say he wanna go to die..

every time i think of our relationship.. how hurt my heart is..

every time he did something that i think it is bad attitude..

my bro always say i dun know why i have a brother like you!!

Please anyone mind help me on it??

i really dun want lost my only one brother.. T_T

Answer 1

It may be easier for you to talk to him online. My brother never speaks normally but on MSN, he really opens up. Just explain that he's growing up now and needs to act like an adult, he's upsetting you and that's not right. Tell him that you love him but you need some time to do your own thing sometimes, give it time and it will most probably resolve itself. My older brother made my life h**l for a couple of years, but now, we couldn't be closer!

Answer 2

You have to remember that he is 14 years old.  He doesn't understand that you are an adult with responsibilities that take up your time.  Maybe if you just let him know how you really feel would help.  Maybe he feels the same way you do - maybe he is sad that his older brother is *too busy* to hang out with him.

Also, even though you might be very busy, you need to spend time with him.  Seems like that is all he wants, is to just have an older brother to hang out with and have fun with.  You're teaching him with everything you do.  So show him that you do love him.

Promising that you will hang out after 2 months is not good - neither of you may not have 2 more months.  Life is short!  Even just 10 minutes here or a half an hour there is better than brushing him off and future promises.  If you need to study, then maybe there's a way to get him involved in that - maybe he can help you in some way with it.

Answer 3

Now as a older brother (im 16 my bros 12 so ) any way younger brothers

have different mind sets to older brothers for instants when your mother is sad a older brother will do what she wants while the younger brother will try to make her do something he wants by doings so feels like shes making his mother better and having fun its because of the was responsibilty growt protection etc. its the same thing you have things to do in and your brother might wanna hang with you but not by going to where you work and helping you but by amking you play vidio games with him etc. (you get the picture) so its normal

if your kinda agressive you can over power him dont beat him the s...t out of him like i do and he will shut up then they shut up