Confused :( Pleasee Help.?

Question

Okaay well ive been dating my boyfriend for one year now and were both 15 years old . When i started dating him i knew he smoked and it didnt bother me at first.. but as i got to like him more and more it really started to bother me at the fact hes so young and smoked. I got mad at first and tried to make him to stop and then i realized just to live with it. All i asked for was for him to not smoke in front of me and thats all i wanted. So he did it once before and i got mad and stormed off and he promised me he would never do it again. Now the other day he was with these older boys and they were pressuring him to smoke, and at first he wouldn't take it cause he knew i was there and keep on avoiding it.. then they keept on saying oh your this and that your soft and your whiped and what not... and he took a puff and of course i got furious. Too me it feels like hes putting his smoking and friends before me , and im soooo mad at him and just wanna kill him and forget bout him.. Do you think im overreacting and that im getting mad for noo reason ? I dont know what to do.. please help.

Answer 1

i think you should ask him why he did it. and i don't think you are overreacting its normal because you want him to respect you and keep his promise

Answer 2

Well he's trying, maybe look at it that way. Talk to him. It's one thing to not want to be around second hand smoke and another to try and pretend he doesn't smoke. Coming from and ex-smoker it's not easy to quit. But maybe a different approach would be better. Like: I don't like to inhale second hand smoke or I don't like to kiss you after you've been smoking. the key words here are talk to him! Good Luck!

Answer 3

You are being very immature. Quit trying to control him. If you don't like dating a smoker, find a non-smoker. If you think you can change the person you are involved with, you are headed for nothing but misery.

Have you thought about smoking yourself?