Confused? Who to talk to?

Question

I'm really confused sexually and kind of embarassed and I don't know who to talk to about it. I know it's nothing to be embarassed about, I have no problem with g*y or L*****n ppl but I know that so many ppl do have a problem with it and I think that is why I am so embarassed. The thing is I almost don't want to say anything to my friends or family about it b/c I'm not even sure that I am and I don't want to make a big deal about it if maybe I'm not. I've never been with another girl before, but I've thought about it. Also there have been certain girls that just give me that nervous "i like you feeling" like when you meet a guy you like and you feel yourself getting all tongue tied, anybody know what I'm talking about? I've thought about going to a counselor but I don't even know if I could say it out loud to somebody else, it's a scary thing to admit even to somebody you don't know. Help please.

Answer 1

Grow up and get a life. Why are americans so melodramatic?

Answer 2

well i am a L*****n. the only way to find out is kissin a girl and after that ull have a feelin of i want more or i regret it or ewwwwwwwwwww. lol dat happened to me. just dont tell anybody until u r sure bcuz dat is very personal. many ppl today say they are g*y just bcuz they think is kool. . .well is not.....dont b afraid to be urself

Answer 3

if its nothin to b embarrassed bout then y r u embarrassed bout it enough that u hav to go c a counselor???

try tellin ur closest most understandin friend 1st nd c how it all goes i mean mayb u should start tellin ppl so ur not so scaredd animoree

Answer 4

i would experiment. or talk to your parents. if they can help you. i realize its hard to say. if people have a problem with it then they arent accepting. if they are your friends, hten they really arent your friends. becasue they are supposed to be accepting and understanding. i dont find anything wrong with it. half my friends are L*****n or g*y while im striaght. although it is quite annoying to have my friends trying to seduce me. but i get used to it.

Answer 5

i know exactly what you mean. i had the same problems a few years ago. When you get a counselor ALWAYS remember that you build a relationship, and with this relation ship you build trust. you can also remember that they work with others like you so what you tell them is no shock. a counselor will be more than willing to work with you so dont worry about it!

if u need to talk hit up my email!

hope i helped!

gooooood luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Talk to the hand.  

Answer 7

you need to ask yourself what you like. do you like girls? guys? or both?

when you find the answer to that, the next step is to not put yourself down becuz you g*y or bi. there is nothing wrong with it.

from what im reading your scared to admit to everyone and YOURSELF that you might be g*y or bi.

when your done putting yourself down becuz you think your weird or different the next step is obvious....tell your family. when yu find out what your sexuality is, tell you parents. if they are open minded about it, they will help you with your "inner demons".

after you tell your parents, the final step is to go find that someone who  likes/loves YOU for who YOU are. and dont be afraid to let go and be yourself. you shouldnt have to be so scared to let your feelings go and show ppl who you really are.

Answer 8

You ny friend are are over thinking things way too much.  I don't know your age but you have to be in a formative period.  Don't worry so much.  It is natural to be open to relationships. You like women...You like men.   You are allowed to enjoy whatever and whoever you choose to sample.

Just do not rush things.  Follow your heart.  There is no need to be embarrassed or ashamed.  This is your life.  Live it on your terms.

By the way...do you really live your life making choices based on what others think?  

Walter

Answer 9

Don't go see a therapist or counselor! Most will try and brainwash you! You sound like you might be bisexual or L*****n. Just tell one of your friends. Tell them you are questioning.

Answer 10

Everything you say to a counselor stays with the counselor.  They can't tell another soul about this, not even a parent.  It is possible you are g*y but difficult for us to day because we don't know how you feel.  Do you have these feelings with guys.  If so it's possible you are bi-sexual.  Talk to a counselor and get advise.  It won't hurt and believe it or not this is a very common problem, you are not alone.  By problem I don't mean you liking girls, I mean not being certain of your sexuality.  Even straight people find the same s*x attractive but not to the point of having s*x.  The thing is straight people often don't mention it for fear it will be taken the wrong way.

Answer 11

That sucks dude. Well coming out with it is up to you. Easy for me to say, I'm straight. But you should look at it this way, it's not if you'll come out its when. You need to decide for your self when the best time is for you, your family and your friends. You might loose some but if your a good person, it's thier loss. Don't pressure your self, but don't deny your self anything either. If you find someone you want to be with and vice-versa  then do it.

It's sad that ancient fairy tales are dictating basic human rights. Lets face it - its solely a religious issue legally there is nothing there that  the law would care about. Religion is the driver of this bus. I say 2 consenting same s*x adults who are in love with each other is not the biggest problem facing society, far from it.

Good Luck.

Answer 12

You should talk to your parents about the situation.  They can help you.  

Answer 13

If you want to you can talk to me i tend to listen alot

[e-mail] or [e-mail] my msn and my yahoo.

Answer 14

Your either going to be confused about it for the rest of your life or your going to actually going to do something about it. Don`t be embarrassed about talking about it. Start with a girlfriend just tell her your curious, once you stat talking about it you will relax. Good Luck!

Answer 15

i think if you're questioning yourself, then you are g*y. thats what all my g*y friends say.

Answer 16

i know what you mean i think.. so im going to guess u like other women. or other guys i dont know what u r. but its ok man or girl. its ok. this is normal and dont say anything to ur family because if u cant then obviously u dont trust them like that. and no u dont need a counceller. i know how u feel i think. its ok. just do it with some girl or guy. hope this helps.

Answer 17

I'm not a L*****n but from my point of view i dont have a problem with it. I think you need to find out. I Guess you have to follow your instincts and if its with a girl..oh well, that's you and you cant help it. And you should tell your friends cause if there your true friends they wont turn on you, they may be a little shocked at first but it will change. Once you tell your friends in family you have them to talk to. My older sister is Bisexual and she told her family and friends and all is fine. You could possibly be Bi. Well i hope i helped. Good Luck=]