Confused about what a female friend meant

Question

What does a girl mean when she says everything you present them with has been too much for them? How can you change the situation? How can you explain to her that what you presented her with was so she could experience everythng you have? I really need help because a good friend of mine, is not talking to me at all. I last contacted her 3 weeks ago to apologize and I sent her a letter of apology which she will probably receive tomorrow. I just hate losing a good friend over my stupidness and want her to see that I am here for her and care about her.

Answer 1

Just back off for a while.  This way you can prove to her that you respect her space and don't want to be too clingy.

Answer 2

Sit them down and talk to them personally in a friendly setting, apologize, ask what you can do, explain again, apologize, act dumb, hope for the best.

She could be PMSing dude XD

Sorry to make fun of your situation, but I've been through it.  Its more of a what happens happens, and try your best to be their friend.

Answer 3

Ok ... DO NOT GO TO HER NOW... DO NOT contact her for a while..

she is begging for space and from what I can see you haven't exactly been giving it to her...

she's not talking to you now... if you want her to EVER talk to her again LISTEN TO WHAT SHE HAS SAID TO YOU....

she may just be trying to cut ties as politely as she can..

there is an old saying:

"if you love something, set it free.If it returns , it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was"

don't smother her, don't go chasing her. She KNOWS where she can find you... back off and allow her the opportunity to either be free or return.

Answer 4

What she is telling you is that the relationship is "out of balance".  You are showering her with goods, and she has nothing in return that she feels balances the relationship.  This might make her feel inferior, or that she must deliver more physically or in other ways to make up for the lack of balance.

What you must try to explain to her is that you see that you were not respecting her and ask for another chance, then stop presenting her with "shared" goods.  Spend time with her as a person, without "stuff".  Because in the end it is the person that you are with, and not their possessions.

Answer 5

You must love this person very much. But you can't force your love. You can't expect that someone will love you back no matter how strong your desire is for them to love and understand you back. It's not all about you. Take a step back and let her make the next move. If she doesn't, let it be. Don't take it too personally. Sometimes you can love a person but know that you just don't want them in your life right now. If she makes that decision then it's about her needs, not yours. And you want what is best for her, right?

Maybe she just doesn't need you to be there and care for her, even though you want her to think so. Maybe she can look after herself. You might need to take a different approach to impress her.

Answer 6

pls go to her again , and tell her to forgive u nomatter what.