Confused ..need advice ?

Question

am planning to move to a new city- Chicago. However, I am currently unemployed and don't have a job lined up in Chicago. In addition, I am going through a break up with my fiance and he doesn't care if I move or not.

I am wanting to move to an exciting city like Chicago and start a new life there but I am also afraid of the financial consequences if I dont find a well paying job and the fear of the unknown (but I do have a couple interviews in chicago lined up). in addition, I know if I make that move things will really fall apart with my fiance. However, I live with my parents in my city and have financial stability (somewhat) but I am not happy living here. what to do?

I am unable to make a decision and this is really paralyzing me from doing anything. please any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

maybe get a job and then move some place more locally. Then when you have enough money saved up then move to chicago. Then find a job up there while you live off your savings.  

Answer 2

I think moving is a great idea...if you do it the right way. Live with your folks until you save up enough money to pay at least the first few months of rent and groceries, etc. to give you enough time to find a job. OR go to the interviews, but until you actually get a job, don't make the move.

As far as your fiance is concerned, if he doesn't care whether or not you move away, then there is no future to that relationship anyway. You deserve more out of a relationship than that.

Best wishes to you. I know you will be wildly successful!

Answer 3

I hate to answer a question with more questions - BUT I wonder if this is a spontaneous decision to move? Or have you been planning it for a while?

If it's spontaneous, I would wait until you're financially ready. If you don't, you'll crash and burn and have to move back home. Probably end up more miserable then you already are.

If it's a move you've planned for a while, and you have some money saved up for all the moving costs and enough to cover a few months while you job-hunt, then GO FOR IT!

Any move is scary. And a journey. And you'll hit bumps. But if you're somewhat prepared, I think you'll be ok. If you're not, though, use your misery as motivation to GET prepared...and work hard to make it happen.