Confused..should I or shouldnt I?

Question

Theres this guy i dont like, but always have to work with. He's a cunning, selfish and manipulative dude. In our normal department, i'm a loner, and this guy has a lot of friends, and he always ignores me (even for official group events, he'll inform everyone else but me). However, he gave me a small 'on-the-way' lift in his car 3 times in the past, and saved me like 2 minutes of walking.

Me and him were posted to a new field. Here i have a lot of friends, so i get along pretty well here. This guy is asking me to call him out when I go for lunch, dinner etc., but I don't want to.. (but i feel a bit guilty for getting a lift off him in the past, but, i cannot stand that guy)

How do I tell him he cannot come along?

Answer 1

Well you could be rude and ignore him. He'll get the hint eventually. But since you feel "guilty" because he's given you a ride a few times you can ask him to come along just once.

My advice would be not to do something that goes against your gut feeling. If you don't want to invite him please don't feel obligated because he gave you a ride.

Answer 2

big deal he gave you some lifts that you didn't really want anyway that were not out of his way. you know when you get a lift from people its usually a hassle and they usually expect something in return whether it be smalltalk or whatever.

stuff him. where was he for you? he made you feel c**p and isolated you.

Just forget to call him. If he asks be friendly and say oh hey i forgot.

you don't have to explain yourself if you don't want to invite him. that could come accross ruder than saying nothing.

Answer 3

I have to agree with the one who said, that you shouldn't explain yourself whenever it comes to your car.

You don't have to call him to say that you are offering to give him a ride along. If he asks however, just tell him that you are busy and that you don't have time for that. Or just lie and tell him that he is not in your way.  

Answer 4

Say that you're getting weird vibes or don't feel comfortable. Or, sometimes it's not necessary to say anything.