Consequences for 12 year old?

Question

We're implementing a program with a counselor and part requires that we compile a list of consequences for either not completing chores, being disrespectful or outright misbehaving. We are stuck with the typical no TV, no computer, no video games. We've got extra chores ready if need be as well. (And yes there are also rewards for good behavior.) What we need are consequences that don't require his cooperation. Time-outs, sending to his room, etc. are not effective and cause conflict. Any suggestions?

Thanks.

Answer 1

what about

-grounded

-cant go to friend's house or have a friend over for a week

Answer 2

Hi! What you are doing is great and also your plans for punishment. Because lately children have lost sight of how to behave and respect people. I had an incident with a teenage girl who was back talking her mother and disrespecting others. The reason for her behavior was the lack of discipline and manners. Sweetie, if you want your child to respect you and behave appropriately, then old school your child. Use the methods your parents, movies or TV shows have shown you. Always remember that your the parent, not their friend. Good Luck ^_^

Answer 3

All consequences require his cooperation.

However, the best thing to do it take something away... what is he going to do? He can't make it reappear in his hands. Just walk up to his room and take his cell phone, disconnect the TV or computer, etc.

Or, take his door off the bolts. That's what my parents did because I used to slam doors continuously, so they took my door off for a week.

Or, a week ' without privacy '. Don't knock on his door before coming in his room for a week, just walk right in. This will keep him from doing anything he isn't supposed to be in his room. You never know, he could be jumping from his dresser to his bed while your not around, and when you knock he jumps on the ground and goes back to reality.

Answer 4

No phone calls for 2 weeks

No friends over for 2 weeks

Answer 5

Just take away his things.

Take the door off.

Take away contact from his friends.

Answer 6

next time don't buy his favorite  foods or snacks no soda or juice at the grocery store, explain to him that people have to earn there grocery money and it is a privilege to have certain foods. most 12 yr boys love to eat and snack all day. this will probably make him think twice after several trips to the store and nothing extra besides the normal breakfast lunch and dinner.had to add more in our state  our kids can get there learners at age 15, most kids cant wait to get there learners so you could hipe hI'm up with the thought of getting his learners and tell him we have 3yrs to get you acting responsible enough  to trust him to do this. this will give him something to work towards, and by then hopefully you will be saying boy you made it through a tough time in your life but you are all grown up now and im proud of you.

Answer 7

Does he play any  sports?  My son was scared to death when we told him if he misbehaved he couldnt play in his games and that would be letting the team down.  Also, you can control if he has contacts with his friends.  Don't let them come over, don't let him leave, and don't let him use the phone to talk to any of them.  My oldest is 12 so I know where you are coming from.  Do you have older teens in your area that are troubled that could talk to him.  I know that has worked for some of the younger boys at our school.  Hearing the boys talk about how they wish they would have behaved at home and listened to their parents because the things they experience at the Juvenile home hits home.  Good Luck, just stay on him and be firm.

Answer 8

You guys are teachers? i would stay away from non-cooperation things.... its only a matter of time before kids want to get you back for it all... and a kid can easly do more damge to a teacher... just say "my teacher .... did things to me" even if in aint true that teacher could lose it all.

Answer 9

Time out in the laundry room works wonders with our 11 yo son.  While in time out, he must wash, dry and fold whatever laundry needs doing.  Good luck

Answer 10

I think what you have is good. No tv,computer,phone..ect.. I hope this helpled

-Tara and Ella