Consequences help?

Question

I need some help with consequences for my husband. He lost his personal cell phone yesterday and refused to look for it. He said that he had his business cell that everyone important called him on anyhow and that he was sure it was lost in our home. He suggested that our baby probably took it and hid it somewhere. Problem one is that he *does* get business calls on his personal cell and if not responded to an cause him to potentially lose some business. He insists that it isn't at his office and that I should be able to find it by doing some quick looking around the house.

What do I do to make sure he is the one responsible for finding it and for dealing with the results of not having it, and what do I do to encourage him to be more aware of where his phones are?

Yes, I know this isn't a parenting question, but husbands are often like children as I'm sure you know. Any ideas?

Answer 1

i would not help my boyfriend. but he never helps me find things when i lose them.

Answer 2

Tell him "I'm not your mother. Your phone is your responsibility and you need to find it. If you don't want to look for it fine, but I'm certainly not going to do it for you."

Answer 3

Don't look for it ?....He'll eventually need it and look for it on his own..

Answer 4

perhaps he left it at his girlfriends place and knows it's safe

Answer 5

I love this question.  Husband's really can be like children.  I'm assuming that you already did the obvious and tried calling the cell phone to see if you could hear it.  I could give you many answers to this question.  I will list a few... some of them are kind of jokes...

1.) You can tell him that you hid it on him to see how long it would take him to find it...

2.) You can tell him that the toilet has been acting funny and you think that might be where is phone is.

3.) "Are you serious? Why would I be the one to look for it?  You are the one who lost it.  Why can't you be the one to look for it?"

4.) "You can't play with any of your other toys until you find your phone."

5.) "Okay, you make dinner tonight and watch the kids and I will spend that time looking for your phone."

I personally like #5 the best.  I still can't believe that he would ask you to look for it.  As for how to make sure he is more aware of where his phone is... buy some velcro and put velcro on all of his shirts (right in the middle) so that he can just put it there when he is done and will always know where it is.  Next time you lose something have him look for it.. .tell him that you think it is in his toolbox(or whatever) and if he just took some time to look for it he will probably find it.... for example... the belt to the wash machine... or something that you use on an everyday basis to make his life easier.  GOOD LUCK!