Considering Dropping out?

Question

High school is a terrible, mean cruel place. School isn't about learning anymore, if it was just that i would of loved to stay. But its the cruel people, people are cruel to me everyday. I try to talk to girls, some not even romantically and they just murder me with cruel harsh rejections. Im not talking about the kind ones but the harsh ones, i got murdered twice today by 2 different girls. See all the girls piled up over the year and now theres like 23 or so girls that hate me. I don't need high school, high school is a bunch of stupid party kids cheating on a test and never getting caught while you try hard to study and still fail. My mom keeps saying im going back but she doesn't understand. Unless i get some form of homeschool or a tutor, i will dropout and i really don't want to so im asking for a tutor. But 16 is the legal age and im 17.

Answer 1

I like Glupy's answer.  I am going through the same thing with my 16yr old son at a private school where I teach!  I also said no. Then my son went through a year of clinical depression and some bad lows and near suicide: he will be leaving at the end of this year.  It breaks my heart especially as we have no good public school in our area.  So it's a super hard charter jr. college or a home school school.

The world is so different today.  My husband's uncle is a sociology professor at osu and he teaches that most people are lonely and think they are the only ones.  If on your deathbed you have 2 good friends, you are very fortunate.  Is there one good friend there who can help you through this at school?    If not, maybe if you could find a homeschool school that could help your mom feel better that you are being taught by a proven curriculum.  Also look at early college, they are in almost every city.  Get to work now your AS degree now for free.  I was so surprised that colleges don't really care if you have a diploma.  It's the SATs and proof of required hs classes studied: so be sure and not let this situation sabotage your future: DO WELL these last years and go to college.  Nothing in life will be like high school:  I guarantee it!  PS  My son was also born again a few weeks ago.  His anger has disappeared.  I have never seen him happier.  Sometimes our struggles are social, chemical, AND spiritual.  God Bless you.

Answer 2

You shouldn't want to drop about just because of a few 23 girls. Haha, I know it sounds like a lot, but maybe your creeping them out when you talk to them romanticly. I mean you don't even know them.. Do you? Anyways, whether if you learn in school or not if you wanna have a real life and go to college you gotta go. Nobody MADE you drop out, you chose to on your own. It's not the girls fault you dropped out. I really would be creeped out if you talked to me romanticly and I didn't even knwo you. Even if you didn't and I had heard of you talking to other girls in a romantic way I would still be a little worried. Lay of the girls and just get school finished. Someday maybe a girl will come up to you in college or something. But that could never happen if you don't go. You have a whole life ahead of you and don't want it to go to waste. Hope you make the right decision.

Answer 3

quit talking to the mean people and ignore what they say, they are just mean and rude anyway so what does it matter what they say?

school proves to the jobs that you will apply to that you have the ability to finish something.

Answer 4

Read the "Teenage Liberation Handbook" by Grace Llewelyn.  It's exactly for people in your situation.

Answer 5

Man I hated school. I went through all the worst name calling anyone could go through. Names like cockroach and insect. Why? Because I had thick glasses that gave me bug eyes.

Look High school is harsh your stuck with a bunch of kids that can and will be cruel. As far as the cheating and partying that sounds like where I went (Mandeville High).  Some teenagers  (a) don't care about others around them (b) are to self absorbed to care and (c) down right crude to those who are slightly different than themselves. I can understand how it feels to be rejected time and again it sucks!

Have you looked into programs like Penn Foster? They offer home school courses so that you can earn your GED and you don't need a tutor. The thing with home school (especially since you are trying to initiate it instead of your mom) is that you have to be motivated to do it. Your mom won't be so supportive if she has to teach you (if she doesn't want that responsibility), if your grades slip, or you fall behind. Are you self motivated?

If you really want to pursue this then look at HSLDA to get the laws for your state and talk to your mom about the choices you have. You may be able to do home bound learning which is the same curriculum that your school uses just done at home. In our area if you can get a teacher from the school who will meet you once a week to give you the lessons and help you need. That might be a great option for you.

God Bless and Good Luck

Answer 6

I'm sorry that it doesn't seem that anyone can understand.  I pulled my 15 year old daughter from the public school system.  I've seen that some have it harder than others.  I want to fill you in on something.  You can drop out and get your G.E.D.  Let me fill you in even more.  There is the thing called unschooling.  Its learning from lifes experiences.  Have you done any research on how people did back in the way way old days.  When they didn't have schools.  How did they learn.  They learned from working the land.  By figuring it out.  Cooking has measuring in it.  Math is all around us and also with a Checking account.  English is our language.  If you are interested in other languages, go to a book store and buy it.  I'm sure that your mom doesn't understand.  It also depends on how much trouble you cause for yourself at school.  But remember this is called Unschooling.  In Illinois it is perfectly legal still.  Check it out in your state.  There are alot of rude kids still in school.  They can without a doubt make life harder than it should be.  

I saw it first hand with my daughter being on the receiving end and not only students were rude but I ran across some crappy teachers.  Alot of teachers out there don't deserve to be there.  I'm sorry for your situation.  Just remember if you do decide to drop out, Don't beat yourself up for it.  Get your G.E.D. and get out there and learn.  It only takes you to learn.  Good Luck to ya.

Answer 7

The answer from May is silly - you are not suicidal, you are a realist and the truth of the matter is that High School (HS) is not a fit place for everyone.  I took my 14 year old out of school and I am homeschooling him.  He will be a Junior in Sept.

It is proven that schools  do not  cater to every child.  A tutor and home school online programs will get you to the end.  Ask in your area fro home school associations and get information.  you can do this.  If the district has rules about homeschooling, the association will know.  Ask at the biggest local church for the name of the associations.  

NOT all homeschooled kids are Christian, but a lot are.  But the associations accept any family and give help to any who ask.  I know it is a big step for your mom.

But i suggest you stick to your guns, since there are MANY MANY kids who are home educated and they succeed very well thanks.

Best of luck.

Answer 8

have you ever heard of jobcorps???

got to http://www.jobcorps.dol.gov/ and read up on it!! its a great place and will be like starting fresh for you =]

Answer 9

You have two options stay and be miserable or leave and get a real natural education do what you feel.

Oh and I totally agree with person above me that book is great I was gonna suggest it but she got there first

Answer 10

This is tough.

Being your age is a lot harder than it was when I was your age. The best thing I can suggest since you have obviously tried to talk to your Mom and she doesn't or refuses to understand how serious your feeling are, is go and talk to someone else. Perhaps a school counselor? Teacher? or Minister?

Rejection from girls may not be what is really going on to make you feel so misunderstood. Maybe if a dialogue with another adult is open it can help give you some insight to what is really bothering you. In addition, you and your Mom might be able to negotiate some terms for you being able to homeschool, tutor or other alternatives that you both can live with. Approaching your Mom first was the best thing, now going to another adult, prefreably a professional, one most capable of helping you to get away from suicidle thoughts and harming yourslef is the best thing.

Sometimes Moms just want to think that their kids can handle anything and have no problems. It doesn't mean that they don't care about how you feel or that they don't love you.

Answer 11

You're not alone. School is a twisted place to learn how to deal in "the real world". You don't need a tutor, you just need self-motivation. You could start college right now without a diploma if you really wanted to just by syaing you are or were homeschooled.

I left high school at 15, never got a diploma or took a college course and went on to own my own business. There are other options out there.

In the meantime, here is a site for support: http://www.school-survival.net/

Answer 12

I think you should get therapy. You sound suicidal.

Answer 13

Create a plan of what you would do homeschooling, write it all up and ask her to look it over to see what she thinks. Address everything in your plan:

*what you will study (if you want to follow your state's curriculum, the standards are probably online; or you could look into online/correspondence schools)

*which resources you will use and where you can get them

*what sort of outside activities you could participate in (work, volunteer, homeschool activities, rec. centre classes, etc.)

I'd also recommend that you see if you can find a state, county or city-based homeschool group in Yahoo groups and you can ask more questions, find out about what people do for high school through homeschooling where you live, you can learn about typical resources used and where to get them (actually, a separate Yahoo group on just high school homeschooling could be helpful for that, or try searching around online). You need to be well informed.

Answer 14

Please don't drop out. Get home schooled. People are cruel everywhere. I had someone once tell me I was so ugly I should go kill myself. Look at my picture. I'm not ugly or pretty I'm pretty much average looking! People that don't do good will most likely have a hard life a head of them. Either stick it out or make sure you can be home schooled.

Answer 15

You should get a copy of "The Teenage Liberation Handbook" by Grace Llewellyn.  Read it and then show it to your Mom.  If you can discuss your reasons on an intelligent, mature, level she will be much more open to your ideas.

If it is of any help, you can tell her that I am the Mom of a teen who would not allow her to go back to school, even if she wanted to (which she doesn't).