Constant Whining/crying?

Question

My 7 year old (1st grader) in recent months has become progressively more whiny and cries over the most simplest of things. Example: if her brother touches a pen she was using 10 minutes ago she whines, if she can't find her backpack, she whines, if the cats are in her closet (she left the doors open) etc, and it's constant. I've tried different things to attempt to stop it, but to no avail. As far as the crying goes it's something as simple she left/lost her hairbands at school, she ripped a paper, she lost a barbie (in her room) and it's very frustrating as it's a 'non issue' type thing. If she had lost her homework at school, or broke a figurine I could see tears, but not tears over a torn blank piece of paper. HELP!

Answer 1

ask her if shes a big girl?do big girls whine and cry?

otherwise motivavre her  to not whine or take away priveleges.

Answer 2

My daughter is the same age and going through the same thing.  In the past, with her and my boys, the whining and crying corresponds with some sort of anxiety about something she may not even realize is bothering her.  Past worries that I have figured out have ranged from "I know I need glasses but don't want them" to "Holiday X is coming up and I am so excited I don't know what to do with  myself" to "My teacher told me to stop talking and I feel like I got in major trouble" (even though it was just a verbal warning).

Another thing that could be going on is that she is growing or about to grow, which makes them need more food and more rest.  As you know, that will make them whine every time!  

Frustrating, isn't it?

Answer 3

my daughter (who is 6) does this occasionally too.  i just let her know that whatever the problem is i'll be happy to help when she's through whining/crying.  i refuse to respond to that kind of behaviour.  generally she takes a moment to compose herself and comes back to me with a more acceptable attitude.

Answer 4

what may not seem like a big deal to us can be a big deal to a child, and if anyone is having a bad day then that makes it that much worse. Adults are like that so imagine a young child. Sounds like she needs some extra attention, love and hugs and support when she is whiny. talk to her and ask her why she feels upset or if she had a bad day. maybe she simply needs extra love and attention after being at school all day. they sure don't get any special love and attention at school.

good luck and shower her with love!!

Answer 5

Let her know that Whining doesn't get her anywhere and if she uses a proper voice you'll be glad to help her sort the situation out

Answer 6

I think it really is an age thing.  My neice is doing the same thing to my sister.  What works for my dd is when I say to her, "I'm sorry but I can't understand you when you whine."  Then she will talk to me with a regular voice.  Good luck!