Constantly reminded to be an adult?

Question

My husband works 40 hour week, and I have 1 kid to take care of school wise, and 2 other ones at home one is 5 weeks old the other is 4 years old. I try my best to get all the housework done before my husband get's home so we can spend time together but that never happens because by the time the kid's go to bed between 8-9 me and my husband both are grumpy and tired. :( Does that go that way for you to?

What about helping around the house, does your husband help you? What does he do?

Mine has to be CONSTANTLY reminded to even pick up after himself and it gets really old I HATE IT!!! HELP!!!!

Answer 1

If your husband works outside the home and you stay home, it is your responsibility to do the housework (on the weekdays). He doesn't make you do his work does he?  On the weekends, it's fair game!

Answer 2

Perhaps it's just a guy thing. Maybe its the way that we were raised. I have been unemployed for over a year now, and my wife does the 40 hour gig for right now. I'm actively pursuing a job, filling out applications online, and then I don't know if it's just that all housework is overwhelming to me or what, but when she comes home and finds that I've been playing XBOX all day or on Yahoo! Answers, she tends to get a little frustrated. I know I should help more, there's just something about that pile of laundry and stack of dishes that says, "I'll take an hour out of your day!" Who wants that? Nobody. I make tons of excuses too, but when it comes to anything else, I'm there for her 200%.

Answer 3

A husbands perspective: I think my wife would say that I help a lot around the house. However, in fairness, there are some things that I won't touch because I know my wife wants them done her way. ...and I don't try to learn her way. Either her way evolves over time and I have simply given up on trying to learn, or I simply don't understand what the rules are after trying. Washing clothes is one example....I have tried a number of times to wash the clothes and I never seem to please her. One of my attempts was to simply wash my clothes and again she didn't like the results. After 29 years of marraige I do what I can with what I know will be acceptable to her.

In way of a suggestion, are there things around the house that he does well that you approve of? If so, why not simply shift these to him altogether and make them his work? Perhaps this isn't the issue with you, but it was for me, and after 29 years we've found our comfort zone.