Controlled Crying? For raters out there?

Question

For starters I'm just curious as I've noticed a pattern in answers. So don't think I'm being rude BUT This is for all you raters who do thumbs up and thumbs downs. Do you actually read the answers or do you see 'controlled crying' and just automatically hit thumbs down. There seems to be a lot of bias out there against it. Is it my imagination or are the majority of raters against controlled crying?

Answer 1

Wow, look at this page. There is someone out there who just wants to be "different" and give everybody a thumbs down.

I ALWAYS read before rating. If they just give stupid answers or just not answer at all, of course I will give them a thumbs down!

Answer 2

I read the answers beginning to end and then rate, if I rate at all.

For the record, I am against. It seems easy to say if a mom has a very easy baby, but mine is very high needs. I just don't see how it helps his well being and my nerves to let him cry. He's only 4.5 months after all.

I think the biggest thing around the controled crying method is that it's interpreted wrongly and used wrong (aka leaving your baby cry until he's puking in his crib) by ignorant people.

Answer 3

i always read answers before giving thumbs up/down, and I'm against it.

Answer 4

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  The thumbs down queens/kings are probably just thumbing because your opinion isn't theirs. I am against the cry it out method but if I had a healthy baby maybe I wouldn't be. He has congenital heart disease and I'm afraid that in some way letting him get really upset for more then a couple of minutes will hurt his heart. I don't jump at every sound my son makes but I do jump on a demanding cry.  If he is whining I let him whine but if it's a full out cry there is no way I could not respond.  

Answer 5

mmmmm....

maybe you are right, as soon as they see 'i use it, or i dont' i think they just thumbs down.

BUT, there are serial thumbs downers out there. like if i answer a question with my experience and i get thumbs down - im like what the??? how can my experience be the wrong or bad answer.

its also suspicious when every single person has 1 thumbs down.

Answer 6

If a person gives a thoughtful, intelligent answer that is relevant to the question being asked, I give a thumbs up. Regardless of whether or not the use controlled crying- everyone's situation is different.  

Answer 7

I agree with IZ... I feel a demanding cry needs to be answered. If my child has a need I am there to meet that need. As for thumbs downing. I try not to use the thumbs unless I am using the thumb up and if I ever do give a thumbs down I most defiantly have read the answer and use it if the answer doesn't relate to the question, would make the asker feel stupid or if the answer is just plain wrong... of course these are all in my opinion but that is something that every person is entitled to!

Answer 8

FYI - on your recent answer about "crying it out," I gave you a thumbs up.  I treated your answer the way I treat all of them: I read them and if the person sounds like he/she gave a reasonable answer that's appropriate to the question, I give a thumbs up.  I liked your answer because you explained rather well that due to age and other circumstances, sometimes crying is not horrible.