Controversial: Men vs. Women?

Question

I am a 23 yr old woman and I believe that my place is in the home to cook, clean and raise my kids. I do my best to please my husband. I believe in equal rights but I dont like dominate women. I think we should be submissive. What do you think.

Answer 1

I think you are absolutely entitled to that opinion.  And absolutely entitled to live your life as you believe is best.

Answer 2

Some people choose to live like that, subservient, which is their right.  But, I think people who have children who cannot support them on their own if need be BEFORE they have children should be put in jail.  Seriously.  I want to criminalize the behavior of non-self-sufficient people bringing children into the world.  It is your choice to remain in dependency and childhood, if that's the best you can do.  But, considering how much of MY hard-earned money spent in taxes is spent to pay for the decisions of weak stupid delusional girls, for dead-beat parents costs (absolutely breaking state and county governments), to feed/clothe/house/and FREE medical care and free internet hook-up /TV service (oh, yeah) for stupid weak unemployable non-self-sufficient girls and their children that they brought into their little domination/submission bedroom fantasies, I have no respect whatsoever for such females.  One third ( actually it's MUCH more) of all social services taxes in national, state, county and city governments go to pay for such stupid, non-self-sufficient women's Cinderella fantasies when their Prince Charming dumps them.

Answer 3

You have my vote. I agree with you. By the way what office are you running for.  :-)

Answer 4

That is great for you. Other women might feel differently and just as it is your prerogative to feel the way you do, other women have the right to feel differently.

Answer 5

I don't agree with you but do whatever makes YOU happy.  That's all life is about, being and doing what makes you happy.  No one has the right to tell another person how they should live it.

Answer 6

I think we should all have the choice of how to live our lives. I'm similar to you in that I prefer to take a submissive role, and I plan to be a homemaker/SAHM when I get married. But submission is only meaningful when it comes from the heart and from our own free will, not if it's forced. I know my lifestyle wouldn't work for all women; some may not want to marry or have children, and may enjoy working. I respect their choice, as long as they respect mine. That's what equal rights is all about. :)

Answer 7

Like I say to feminists, don't force your views onto others. If you want to be submissive, that's fine, but that doesn't mean other women should be.

Answer 8

In today's economy, this is not wise thinking.  I understand you are married, and probably very happy.  However, everything can change in a moment's notice.  Your husband could be laid off.  If you don't have a skill set, besides being a stay at home mom, the budget could be VERY tight for quite some time, forcing you to give up luxuries, or your home, depending on how long he is out of work.  However, if YOU have a skill set, you both could be looking for a job, instead of just him.  This could double the chances of income coming in sooner.  Also, every financial whiz will tell YOU that YOU need 6 months of living expenses saved up in case of loss of job or cut in pay, or you and your husband decide to go separate ways.  How are you going to save living expenses if you don't have a skill set that you can make a living from?

Answer 9

"I am a 23 yr old woman and I believe that my place is in the home to cook, clean and raise my kids."

That's very nice for you. Personally, I would get bored silly in 10 minutes, so if you don't mind, I'll pick the life that's right for me and you can pick the life that's right for you.

The moment you stop using the pronoun "I" and start using "we" is where I have to disagree with you.

You don't speak for me, or many other women. Please don't try.

Answer 10

I think that you are a troll.  I think that very few women feel that way and the ones who do don't go around posting it on the GWS board.

However, if you want to (and can afford to ) stay at home, that is great.  I love cooking and take great pride in keeping a beautiful home.  My fiance is well taken care of.. but he would definitely tell you that you couldn't define me as submissive.  (As far as that goes.. he  does things for me as well - give and take)

I don't believe in a relationship with a sub and a dom, we have a partnership.. I get some things, he handles the others... it tends to be split down traditional gender roles (for the most part) for us.. but it doesn't mean that it has to be that way for everyone, or that I should be forced to do anything I don't want to do.

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Tracey, again I'm commenting on your answer.. that was such a good point about the shift  if singular to plural.  It is fine for someone to say they are submissive, but another thing for them to say that that role is for every female.  I enjoy your posts.

Answer 11

To each their own I say.

Answer 12

Sweetheart, while I agree with some of the others here that you should do what makes sense for you and your situation, I think you are just another troll trying to meet your own agenda.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

In another question you posted, you asked about why people like thongs, saying your boyfriend liked them.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Are you married or is this question just a way for you to see if others agree with your views on child rearing? I'm happy that you believe in equal rights, that's wonderful. It's great that you love cleaning and cooking, they can be wonderful hobbies. However, stop trolling. It's annoying and people can see right through you.

Answer 13

I don't agree with you current philosophy.  It is fraught with misconceptions defining gender value.  When I was about 9 years old, my father was perusing the mail and found  a charge to a jointly creditable department store that my mother used to resupply our bed linens, and towels.  They were muslin, on sale, and not an upgrade from the current bed linens.  My dad, said,"Bernice, you didn't ask me if you could spend this money.  From now on I want to be consulted before you buy things". My mother sat silently for about 30 seconds, and replied.  "Albert, I am confused because you have discredited my contribution to the welfare of our family." She left the table, and did nothing for almost two weeks that would benefit the efforts of my father.  ( I lived on a farm).  After approximately 10 days, my  dad announced at "supper time" that he was deeply sorry for his devaluation of my mothers contribution that was necessary for the benefit of our family.  And, from that time forward, he accepted the results of my mothers judgment.  So, from that time forward, my family demonstrated that gender is equal, just different.  Okay?

Answer 14

Um, and I'm a 22 year old woman and I believe that you should do whatever makes you happy. If you want to stay home to cook, clean, and care for your little sprogs while your husband is out providing for you, have at it. I really don't care what you want to do with your life. The issue here is you said "I think we should be submissive." I think you should mind your own business and not tell me how I should live my life. I am not submissive to my boyfriend, and he does not want me to be, and we are perfectly happy with this arrangement.

Answer 15

Yes this question is wildly controversial. How daring of you to ask it.

Answer 16

If that's what you want to do, fine. It's your choice. But admit that those women (there's a lot of us) who don't want to do those things have the right to choose how WE want to live, too.

Answer 17

You are entitled to that opinion. Others who would not find your role so appealing should be welcome to find their own path. There are many people in this world, and many roles to fill. However, you should learn to take care of yourself in case your husband dies or becomes incapacitated (would you be able to run the household if he were paralyzed)? Don't end up a poor widow, because you let your husband run your life and never learned how to manage a bank account.

Answer 18

You think you should be submissive, fair enough, but please don't go purporting that I should be submissive.  

I agree with some of the other answers, that you should be able to support yourself should the worst happen.  You are only young, and a lot of marriages end in divorce.  

Otherwise, I think that women who stay at home do contribute a great deal to the marriage, but I don't think they should see themselves as submissive, or less then, just because the work they do isn't paid.

Answer 19

That may be your place, but it's not mine and it's not the place of every woman.

You are entitled to your opinions-- but not everyone shares them.

If that is what you truly want with life, go for it! :)