Conversation problems?

Question

Well, when I talk to people I tend to try to act intrested in that person and ask questions. The trouble is they don't ask questions back. You would think that if you ask someone a question like "What is you favorite book?" They would tell you and then say "What's yours?" But they don't. They just tell me then there is this akward silence. It's like what is wrong with me that you don't even want to bother getting to know me? It sort of ends up hurting my feelings. I am shy as it is! But if I don't engage in some sort of conversation no one would talk to me. What should I do to make friends who are interested in me?

Answer 1

Don't take it personally, nothing is wrong with you. People just don't know how to have a good/polite conversation these days. Nothing's wrong with you, it happens to me too, and I'm a pretty outgoing person.. Maybe just try asking more questions, or questions that require them to ask about you. Also when they tell you their favorite book, and don't ask yours, then just tell them. Eventually they should get the point.  To make friends that are interested in you, join a club about a topic that you are really interested in, and the people in the club will be interested in the same thing, therefore most likely interested to get to know you better.

Answer 2

I'm a shy person as well. I find that people can see that I am shy, so they tend to get discouraged, (especially when I was 13ish) they don't always know how to respond. I know one person in particular that is in my "group" that I don't ever say more than "hi" to, because he doesn't know how to talk back to me.

I suggest that when you find something that you have in common with another, to keep talking about that thing until you can't anymore. For example, music is usually a really good conversation starter, as everyone likes music. I've found that if someone doesn't like a certain thing, that they don't want to talk about it.

Answer 3

Rather then saying what is your fav book? why don't you try saying what's your fav book mine is then say which is your fav and why then they will say theres and its more of a conversation then, hope this helps its what i always do and im quite a shy person who hates that silence so just try it and see if it works you got nothing to lose

Answer 4

I think you question is in the wrong place but that's okay.

Maybe you are talking to the wrong people? You should join a group where people are interested in the same things you are that always helps make Friends and good conversation.

Best of luck i wish people were not so self involved they are probably missing out on a chance to meet a great person.  

Answer 5

Ugh, I absolutely hate it when people do that. The best thing is to just ignore them and try with someone else, cause they're obviously not interested in making friends. Or they might just be shy. I guess if you really want to strike up a conversation you could follow up just telling them what your favourite book is without them asking, or start talking about the book they said.