Conversation topics?

Question

I am a 27 year old guy in a play with a man in his forties. He has generously offered to give me rides to and from play practice since I don't own a car. The problem is that we have little in common and the silence is DEAFENING on the rides. I need some topics of conversation to fill the gaps. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Stay away from controversial topics like religion and politics.  A good place to start is by things that you both enjoy - for instance if you're both in a play, perhaps talk about that, or other theatre productions.  Ask broad and general questions about things such as what he did on the weekend, or how was his day - that was he can share as little or as much as he likes.  Otherwise topics like the weather, television, movies etc are generally good.

Answer 2

Does the silence seem uncomfortable to him also? (His body language would usually let you know) If not, why force it? That is even more stressful. Why not opt for companionable silence? Or music? If he seems uncomfortable, too, do what the British do. Talk about the weather.

Answer 3

talk about your day, your family, your characters, what you feel your weaknesses may be in your character, how long has he been acting, when did he start, what was his first play, did he always want to act, does anyone inspire him, what does he aspire to do with his acting career....there are plenty of things to talk about but if you are not truly interested conversation would be a moot point

Answer 4

I hate when that happens.  I'd say ask him what HE does in his free time- find a common subject.  if he says play/watch sports, or any other hobbies, pick one you are familiar with and also like and make conversations, that way both of you won't feel like you are talking about something you aren't familiar with or don't like.  Also, you'd know by then whether he prefers talking or silence. if silence, then don't do too much next time, hahaha

Answer 5

Can you talk about the play?  What's tough about it and what's easy about it and anything else related to the play you can think of.  Ask if he's done anything else -- tell him about your experiences in acting besides the play you're in now.  What's on the front page of the news in your area lately?  Talk about that.  Talk about the Olympics or see if he has an interest in sports (if you like sports).

Answer 6

Does he like to talk?  Does he prefer the silence?  Maybe that silence in the car is something he values.

Any way, there are two things you can always have in common with anyone:  weather and food.

Food topics are pretty broad.  What types of food does he like?  What restaurants recently opened or closed?  What restaurants do you guys like?

Weather - I mean come on.

Plus you can talk about music!  What are your interests?  Where do you each want to go with the group?  What concerts have you been too and what do you want to see?

The best thing you can do is listen and let him speak if he wants to.