Coping with a miscarriage?

Question

I had a miscarriage in Nov. 07 the thing is i didn't know i was pregnant, i will say 5-6weeks not far. i took a test cause my cycle was late which is normal for me because my hormones r not right. it was Neg. but a few days after Thanksgiving i had a brown color comin out that morning, by that night it was bright pink and red but not alot. the next morning i woke up in a crazy pain i just took some meds. and layed down because i thought it was my cycle acting crazy. but when i went to the bathroom there was a lot of blood and gray tissuse like stuff there. so i went to my doctor. the preg. test was neg. again and she said that it was a big possibility that i had a misscarriage but she would need to run more test. but i asked her not too and not to write it down.

i cried for 3days and then held it deep inside and never told anyone tell a month ago i told someone and told my ex a few days ago. Now all the pain is back and i don't know how to deal with it. how do i cope with this?

Answer 1

my yahoo is shanon_zeigler you im me if you want i had a miss miscarriage in dec i was soppose to be 12 weeks andi went to the er and found out my baby died at 7 weeks but my body didnt know it died i carried my baby for 6 weeks dead before i had a d&c i have been trying since jan 08 and still no baby i know how you feel

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Sadly, I've lost a 10 week old to SBS (Shaken Baby Syndrome) and another at 13 weeks gestation due to miscarriage.  For me, the only way to cope with it is to just push it down deep inside and not think about it.  That isn't dealing with it at all, but that is the only way for me to live.  People say that talking about it helps, but not that I've noticed.  I've been on anti-depressants, been to counseling and nothing so far has helped.  How do you really "cope" with loosing a child?  No one has ever been able to answer this for me.  I have been TTC lately and each month when that test comes back negative, I die a little more inside.  I really do believe that it will happen again (for both of us) and once we do have that little one in our arms, all of the trials will be worth it.  I wish you luck TTC, and I will pray for you and your little one.  God bless!