Coping with triplets and a 7 month old, at 14 y/o?

Question

my fiancee and me are 14, she has a 7 month old daughter and is pregnant with my triplets, do u have any parenting tips for us? preferably from someone who has multiples? or is a young parent of multiples? but really anything is good?

Answer 1

At 14 years of age you are going to have FOUR babies ???

You are still very much a child yourself

You are going to need all the help you can get, and then 10times more

Ask yourself, what future can you realisticly provide for these children??

How you will afford it?

YOU WILL HAVE BUCKLEYS OF EVER GETTING A PAYING JOB, AS YOU WILL PROBABLY NEVER FINSH SCHOOL

Im 35, and have a full time above average wage job, yet we

still struggle, how the h**l are two 14 year olds going to cope.

Take my advice, do the best thing you posibly can for these children-

GIVE THEM TO SOMEONE WHO **CAN**  RAISE THEM

FOUR KIDS AT FOURTEEN IS INSANITY

the fact you said you used a condom and it broke shows me just how childish and stupid you are

Answer 2

Parenting tip numero uno: Don't be the ones to give your children the "s*x talk" - maybe ask their therapist to do that instead.

I may be 20 and a mother of two but this is just plain stupid.

Answer 3

You can't handle 4 children under one year old at your age. Put the triplets up for adoption, it'll be hard but the right thing to do in the end. If you keep them you can't give them the life they need, you're just too young. Concentrate on Kaylor for now and maybe quit the s*x for awhile to avoid getting pregnant again. Also don't rush into marriage. Wait until you're older and have experienced the world. Your fiance may not be the one you want to be with in 5 years.

Answer 4

I am 20 weeks with triplets,and I am 19 this month, there are alot of risks with triplet pregnancies and alot of strain is put on the body, so I have to agree with Charli that her age will be a hindrance.

I trust she is on bedrest, to help lower these risks?

I haven't really any advice because me and my husband are in a simular situation but all I can say is take it one day at a time.

Congratz

Answer 5

you do know you cant get married utill your at least 18... i find this hard to believe

Answer 6

I hate to be the one to say it, but the chances of her carrying triplets so soon after a birth, and her age is not looking good.

I know of 2 people who have had triplet and 1 who is carrying triplets, and I think her age and immature body will work against her. I am sorry, but I am sure a doctor told her that.

My parenting tip is not to get your hopes up & take each day as it comes.

Then buy some condoms and start looking after each other.

Answer 7

you guys are CRAZY!!!

Answer 8

YOU ARE BABIES YOURSELVES...YOU SHOULD OF BEEN MORE CAREFUL. RIGHT NOW I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD GET SOME PARENTING SKILL OR ASK YOUR PARENTS FOR HELP AND ADVICE...=/

Answer 9

so, aside from the obvious 'youre too young' etc arguments, here we go.

the babies will be close enough in age that the difference wont matter much. you'll just start the older on solid foods before the others.

on a more serious note, is the tiny uterus, and 3 babies. you are talking complications, doctor bills, and excessive diaper changes. i had twins, and they almost killed me. if i hadn't already been in the hospital i would have died.

you need to go to work. put your savings into a CD so it can grow. you will need the money. you will need 1 crib at first, but then you should get another 2. try to get ones that convert to day beds. you should get a potty to expose the 7mo old to it early. dont force her, but plant the seeds.

and please protect you triplets from SIDS in every way you can.

Answer 10

Here's a tip: USE PROTECTION AND STOP REPRODUCING!

Answer 11

Wow, people can get mean. Anyway, since Britt already has Kaylor, and I'm assuming your taking the role as her dad, just do what you do with her! I have twin sisters, so maybe I can just base what I did with them, and then add a few. It's going to be A LOT harder with 4 babies. If y'all can, get help from a friend, or hire a nanny. I mean y'all are going to school too, right? Also, I've noticed this alot  with some of my moms friends who have had triplets, they tend to treat them as one baby, and forget that they are individuals. Treat them all as different babies, and remember that they all have different personalities. Haha idk my advice probably sucks, but it's nicer than some other peoples! But get some help with those kids boy! You'll need it so you can stay sane :) Also, to the person who said you can't have custody until you're 18....your completely wrong. Im 17 and I have full custody of my daughter. And to the person who said they can't get married...they can, as long as they have parental consent.

Answer 12

its okay im 14 myself and welll im a virgin... but my mom had my older sister at 14 too... don't worry my moms like 40 now and every1 i happy... it can only get better if you follow your instincts and RELAX.... and don't have any more kids for a while.... ever seen jon and kate plus eight of tlc... well they have a ton of kids.... look at the bags under their eyes!