Copycat at 39?

Question

We have been bff for yrs. We came from difft backgrounds. Her family struggled, mine did not. We met at the com. coll. I continued my education while she worked. I teach. She works in an office. I drove a hooptie. She had a nice vehicle. Fast forward. 1 day, my son asked her for $1. She said " I know teachers are underpaid, but cuh!" On his b-day, she gave him a card that read "This card is much like a career in teaching, there's little money in it." She now realizes I make $20,000 more than her. My son & I are living La Vida Locka and she & her child are living La Vida Broka!

She can not follow her own dreams. I do taxes, she does. I have advanced degrees, she took the accelerated route to hers. I have 2 vehicles, she does. I purchased some land, she's looking for some.

She doesn't want to work with kids, but wants summers off. She is trying to switch to teaching now-THE SAME SUBJECT! She refuses to take education classes. She wants my help 2 steal my dreams.

? should I do

Answer 1

She definately has a problem especially at that age.

Have her take a career test and see what it says

Answer 2

You're just hurt because she might be able to this better than you.

Answer 3

if i were you, id be honored! she looks up to you!

Answer 4

she obviously wants to earn more and prob thinks that your lfe looks pretty good.  

She seems very insecure - the jokes abt your salary, the copying, etc...def dont help her to be a stalker type!  You got to where you are by making it BY YOURSELF...let her try and do it the hard way.  If she wants it so bad she will stick in.

BTW it may be time to take a step back form the friendship...even just for a little while, so that you get a break from her.  She sounds a total nightmare!

Answer 5

Get over yourself.  So you have similar goals in life.  She isn't stealing anything from you; she obviously envies what you have, but the fact that she might get it too doesn't mean that you lose anything.  Life isn't a zero sum game.  

You have basically answered your own question.  She refuses to take education classes.  Then she can't be a teacher.  You can't help her if she won't help herself.  Give her the advice that if she wants to teach, she would have to take education classes.  That should end it.  

By the way, la vida loca means the crazy life, and not the good life.  Unless you are bragging about being in a gang, I wouldn't use that term!