Corsage for the mother of the deceased?

Question

My brother just died and wonder if it is appropriate to get my mother a corsage to wear during the memorial service? If not, what other meaningful gesture can I do for her specifically?

Thanks,

Theresa

Answer 1

It would be a nice thing to discuss with her. She may be from the old school that says no, so just be prepared. You're all probably in extreme pain and I'm so sorry for your brother's death. Losing a child is the worst pain a woman can bear, no matter how old. Have you considered maybe getting her a locket and putting his picture in it? That would last a lot longer than the corsage and would be something she can have with her whenever she needs "him" around her.

Answer 2

There is an old Chinese curse, "May your children die before you do." Having a child die is tough. I am sorry for you loss. You, and especially your mother, must be hurting.

A corsage would be nice; being there to hold her hand would be nicer. Make a big pot of stew and buy some french bread. Stew is easy to re-heat, in big portions or small.

A letter filled with some of your favorite memories of growing up together would be nice. (I'm assuming here you did grow up together, and he was nice more often than not.) Concentrate on the times that what he did was touching, uplifting or humorous, not the times he failed, as all of us do, to be perfect.

Answer 3

I think a corsage would be a wonderful idea.  

One of the best things  you can do is be there and hold her hand.

Maybe later, you could put together a scrapbook about your brother.

Sorry about your loss.  Always hard to lose a loved one.