Basically, I moved out of home 8 months ago to live with my partner of 2 years. I didnt have a happy time at home. My dad is an 'In-denial Alcoholic', Jekyll and Hyde personality and very agressive when drunk. I have witnessed him hit my mum, break my mums hand, hit her with his belt. He has hit me and my sister. I was always scared of him growing up. He put alot of pressure on me throughout school, so much so I was at the doctors suffering with panic attacks. He called me a liar when I told him.... They have always been very opinionated people and they have always felt the need to make negative digs about everything in my life!!
They made my life h**l with my first relationship of 3 years and they have tried to do the same with my current relationship. Their excuse is that they dodnt agree with the age gap, I am 20 and my partner is 28.
My partner has always made an effort with my parents, but regardless of all his efforts they always seem to find something to pick at. For example, I am very close to my partners parents and my parents get very jealous. My dad met my partners dad for literally the space of 5mins and all he did was make snide comments afterwards!! I was so angry because all my partners parents do is support myself and my through thick and thin. They financially helped us get our first house together and sorted nearly ALL our furniture for us. My parents offered NOTHING, They didnt even offer to help me move my things out of home. Oh no wait they suppied the bin bags! Money has been tight and we needed a washing machine, so my parents bought us one, but i wish they hadnt now because everytime we argue they throw that in my face!!
I I have always held a grudge against my dad for the things hes done. My mum will always stick up for him though. When hes drunk she says hes JUST TIRED!! We go family meals and my dad turns up pissed and verbally puts me down infront of everyone! My partner has to bite his tongue an awful lot!
It has got to the point now where my partner does not want to make the effort anymore and has suggested I try cutting my parents off to make them realise how much they upset me. I keep trying to talk to my partner about re-locating to try resolve my problems, but dont know if that would help?
The final straw was last sunday, we went to a family bbq for my mums bday and within 5 mins me and my parents were arguing. I was asked if i miss living at home, in which i replied "no i really enjoy my independence" my mum clearly saw her a*se and replied "Well whos to say i want you back!! You'll end up in sheltered homing, theres plenty of sheltered homing for you!!" no-one found her comments funnny and she embarrassed herself more than anything. They are convinced that my relationship is going to come to an end, but they are so narrow-minded that they fail to see that I am so happy and found the man I am going to marry. He is the best thing that happened to me and I am at my whits end with my parents now! I text my mum on Monday to let her know how im feeling and she simply replied that it is my AGE! She has since text me acting like nothing has happened and I have chosen to ignore her and not replied since. It is my dads birthday next week too and I feel like i dont want to celebrate tthat either Any advice ?!?!?!?
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