Could You Please Give Me Some Advice?

Question

I am 20 and I have a male friend who is 21 and I have known him for about a yr. in a half. Through out this period he has been sending me mixed signals and each time I 'take the bait' he always comes up for an excuse on why we can't be together. Odd thing is that his behavior towards me is not platonic.

He tells me that I mean the world to him, I make him happy, he misses and he has even dropped the dreaded L-word on me. He calls me almost everyday, but every time i mention a relationship or liking him in a more than friends way, he comes up with an excuse.

I am tired of being hurt and I need to get away from him. I don't want him out of my life, but at the same time the friendship is getting painful due to the mixed signals.

Let me also inform you that we have never had s*x so it's not that.

Another odd thing is that he gets jealous if I like someone. He will get really quiet if I talk about another man or he will say negative things about him.

I feel like I am being strung along until he can finally commit. If I don't answer my phone or am not availible for him, he gets peeved, but if i text him etc it may take him a while to respond

Answer 1

It seems that he has commitment issues and he is scared to settle down. My advice to you is for you to move on keep him as a friend, but go out there and date other people maybe that will make him click. You don't need to be hurting yourself that way, it seems that he wants to keep you around as much as he can so he can secure himself so that when ever he is ready you are there, but don't let him do that to you...just go out there meet people and have fun, you might get lucky and find a really nice guy that you really like.

Answer 2

OKAY....... I will be very to the point.

Be straight forward with the man and let him know hat you expect from him and what he can expect from you.

You have to make a point of setting the boundaries you can not expect him to do it. Start by talking to him when YOU want to, even if it means avoiding his calls. Go ahead and go on your dates .... do not tell him just live your life how you want to live it.  

Answer 3

ooommmgggg i know how u feel this dude i messd with "my best frend" is the same but he will call me and  talk about all the girls who like him but when i say it 2 him he gets angry and duzznt want 2 talk 2 me.. i dont get it eather and they say us girls are crazy and dont know what we want... good luck with that....