Could a person be happy being single for life?

Question

What do you think? And are you, or do you know anyone like this? :-)

Answer 1

I am happy now and can conceive of being a content single for life.  The only  hurdle I constantly run into is the stigma that married people try to attach to me sometimes. I get the feeling that most don't seem to understand that my being single is  a choice.  I have even been asked, "What's the problem".  It's as though society at large finds it more acceptable to be in a stale, crusty, miserable marriage than to be a happy healthy single.  I wouldn't mind having a live-in girlfriend but I'm really not inclined toward marriage. To me it is just a ceremony.  I don't want to go through a ceremony just to appear normal to other people.  I'd rather be honest with myself.

Answer 2

There are some that could.

But just because someone appears happy does not mean that they actually are.

Answer 3

I'll start with, I am married and happily so.  I wasn't really looking for anything and managed to find someone that made me want marriage

HOWEVER, I think that having marriage as an ultimate goal is foolish. It is unfortunate that so many women think that happiness and male companionship go hand in hand.

There have been people I have known that were completely happy married and those that were completely happy single. I think the people who push themselves into marriage are the ones who wind up the most unhappy.

It is possible to be happy with both, if that is truly what you want.

Answer 4

Yes but not me, I believe that life is not meant to be lived alone.

Answer 5

Some people could be.

I probably could but I wouldn't want to be single for life.

Answer 6

I would think some people could but most people need and crave that human connection.

I think it's a very animalistic and natural instinct for most human to want to be with another.

I personally don't think I could enjoy the single life forever, especially after what I have now. I know what it's like to come home to someone and fall asleep together at night. It would be too lonely of a life for me.

Answer 7

I suppose there is someone out there that could...there is always acceptations.

I know people who are single(50's plus)...and have been for a long time but I wouldn't call them happy.

Answer 8

There are probably some people who could.

What can a lover give us that good friends can not? Seems perpetually single folks are ostracized though.

Answer 9

My dad's youngest brother is 45 and single, and I doubt he has plans for getting married any time in his life. He says all women are his sisters, and he could never marry his sisters.

He's quite happy by himself. He cooks for himself, cleans his house better than my mom and me clean ours, and is quite well-settled.

Answer 10

I would be. I am married but I really think that if somethign happened and my husband and I were no longer together, I wouldn't remarry. I love my husband and our life together but I do think he is the only one meant for me to be married to. I would be happy single and I have several friends both male and female who are very happy single. These people are single by choice not because they have had some bad experience that they are too afraid of to recommit.

Answer 11

My uncle is single (never been in a serious relationship) and is over 50. He seems happy to me. He's definitely not bitter about it, at any rate.

Answer 12

I am happy about being solitary forever.

Answer 13

Could a person be happy being single for life?   yes and no

What do you think?   It's a long shot because what a person says about "I'm single" and how a person lives and relates is often too different things.

And are you, or do you know anyone like this? :-)

I'm happily married.

Yes, I do know people who are single, some of which I'm staying away from, not because their single because their not happy, snappy, snippy, isolationists, troubled.  On the other hand, I know some single people we hang out with who are happy and some looking for a companions and some have found companions recently.

Answer 14

Yes, I think a person can totally be happy living the single life.  Getting married and having kids adds so much drama to life.  I know of plenty of happy singles.  In fact, I'm trying to encourage my friend to leave her boyfriend.  She's afraid of being single again and it'll totally throw off her family planning.  But I think it's so much better to be single than in an unhappy marriage with kids.  Especially if you're trying to change your partner all the time.  People must choose partners wisely, both for themselves and their future kids.  If that can't get done it time, oh well.  There's nothing that says one HAS to get married and have a family.

Answer 15

I have a friend who is 62, married (and divorced) SIX times. He still dates once in a while, but the idea of having an actual "partner" doesn't even appeal to him. He realizes that the divorces were due to him (I guess it took a while to realize that) preferring to be alone.

I have another friend who is 40, never married, no serious relationships EVER, and will most likely (although he disagrees) remain single for life.

In both cases (call it selfishness, I'm sure) they have no interest in compromising their lives. Themselves and their own needs are the only things they really care about. They ARE both fun people, and good friends, but are both well ware that their lives have no "room" for anyone else.

So I guess it does happen.

Answer 16

YES!!!! If anything, being married sometimes brings more misery than happiness.

Answer 17

Yes, I think it's possible. All of my girlfriends feel that way. Most of them are single now and are perfectly content.

Answer 18

hmmmm. toughie.

i can see how a person can be happy. now, ive been wth girls but as i was growing up, i really could not care less about dating or being with someone. i loved single life and still do to some extent. but, its only so good for so long. being single is fine if it suits you best. if you're surrounded by people and like your own time then its greta.

but personally, im not to sure if i could live a single life forever. being in a relationship is hard work and involves alot of compromise, but its the greatest. always knowing that person has your back. knowing there is someone who is available to listen. friends come and go. love is for life.

Answer 19

Yes.  My brother is single, and is perfectly happy that way. He is very sociable, and has hundreds of friends, but he likes living on his own.

Answer 20

Yes, because some people simply aren't cut out for marriage. I do have some relatives who tried marriage and it didn't work out for them so they have been single ever since.

Answer 21

That might be me . . .

after being in an unhealthy relationship too long, I'm delighting in my singleness.  I can breathe again, and I'm not risking losing that any time soon. I prefer singleness and no dates to making a big mistake like that again.

That really scared the beejeebers outta' me.

Answer 22

Yes, sometimes I think like that, knowing there's no one who is my type. If thats what it comes to, then I can live a happy life single. I really don't care if I end up alone forever.

Answer 23

im almost 30..ive been single all my life..i have never dated..

and i feel fine.

besides..ive only been asked out 2 times in my whole life...

when i was like 13 or 14...and i wasnt ready to date back then.

heh..lol..yeah..im pathetic.

Answer 24

I am. Kicking the door on 40 this year and have no desire to change.

I am going with ricardoxantos above me. I am quite happy the way I am...I enjoy an active social life and have many friends. But nearly all of those friends are married - their fulfillment comes from that

Answer 25

I think that they can as long as they have lots of friends and family.  Otherwise they could get very lonely.

Answer 26

Happiness come from the inside. Not from the outside.

If a person feels fulfilled by being single  The answer is definitely yes.

Unhappiness come from our egos.

Answer 27

Yes, I'm living it.

Answer 28

Yes.  I have been married, living with someone and living alone.  I really liked alone better.

Answer 29

I think that they could. Marriage is totally awesome, but it isn't the only thing that can make someone happy. There are many people who a single and happy, but there are also people out there that say they are happy, but are not.

Since I am a Christian this is what I have to say: In the Bible Paul said that if you cannot retain from lusting, then you should get married. But it is better to remain single.

The bad thing is that our society is so lust driven that it makes it almost impossible to stay happy unless you are having s*x. If we weren't like this then singles would be more content with not having a partner.

PS- I am married.

Answer 30

Yes. Know many who are single, happy and satisfied being single.

Answer 31

Mother Teresa was.

Many greats have been more successful in fulfilling their ideals and helping humanity best as single people than if they had to split their time between family and society.