Could any moms out there answer these questions i have?...?

Question

My 12 year old sister dresses more provocative than me and i'm 20. she wears way too short of shorts, a skimpy short little black dress to my grandpas funeral, and soooo tight pants. my parents don't tell her that this is not appropriate. when i was her age they wouldn't have dared let me wear this. i didn't even want to when i was 12. why are they all of a sudden letting her do this. Is is because they don't want to deal with the fighting that she will start?

Answer 1

how awful.  i can't believe the clothing people are allowing their kids to wear.

maybe your parents think its just phase and think she will become rebellous if they say no.  or maybe over the years they became more lenient due to hte fact of "changing times'

well i don't care what their reasoning is, parents need to step in and tell their children dressing like whores is not appropriate.

Answer 2

My mom would have torn my tail up had she ever caught me wearing such nonsense at 12.  They probably just don't want to deal with the drama and temper tantrums that will ensue when they start laying down the law on her attire.  They need to though, because 12 is way to young to be dressing like you're going to a night club.  They'll have a lot bigger problems later if they can't deal with (or perhaps cannot see) this problem.  

Talk to them - but use tact.  You can try talking to her - but I'm not so sure it would do you any good.

Answer 3

Stick to taking care of yourself and let your parents raise your sister.  How you were raised has nothing to do with how they have chosen to raise her.  You are not the same person, they are dealing with her differently.

Answer 4

they probably dont want tto deal wiht it but they better start or there gunna end up with an unruly daughter that is premiscuous some day if they arnt careful they need to lay down the law now while they still have the chance

Answer 5

I have a 12 yr old daughter and I would NOT let her out of the house in something provocative.  I HATE seeing girls in shorts with writing across the butt. if that isn't an invitation to look at a little girls behind, I don't know what is.  If your parents are too tired to put their foot down now while she is still young, they are going to have one h**l-uva time later on.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

Maybe they dont notice or dont think its bad. I dress a little inapprotpiot but my parents notice and they dont always care. Maybe they find no harm in her dressing like this. I hope this helped!

-Tara

Answer 7

Well, let me start out by saying that at age 12 she is way too young to be dressing like that. I think someone needs to sit your parents down and have a chat with them. If I were to ever see my daughter dress the way you described your sister she would never leave the house again. If your parents won't do anything about it maybe you could step in and talk to her. Explain to her that when other people see her like that they aren't seeing a sweet little 12 year old. Let her know that she is putting herself in danger. It's sad that we have to think about those kinds of things now a days. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

They're tired, but they really need to step up to the plate. With such an age gap, she was probably a "change of life baby," meaning that your mom didn't think she could get pregnant anymore, maybe because her periods were spotty. My youngest brother was born when my mother was 42 and I was 6 and my other brother was 4. He got away with a lot more, two. I also taught a "change of life baby," who was 11 by the time I had her; her brothers were already married and in the service. She was spoiled rotten and lazy because her parents didn't expect much and let her do her own thing.

While I understand how they can be tired (I had my son when I was 42.), they really do need to step up. Obviously you can see the dangers of a 12-year-old dressing like this. You can say anything you want, but she won't listen unless she gets some consequences from her parents. If they don't do something now, they may be in for some trouble in the not too distant future.

Answer 9

As her older sister you should be able to lay it on the line for her and tell her she looks, S****y or trampy. Maybe your parents think it is ok, but if you are horrified - tell them!

Answer 10

ask them. you have every right. Often parents are stricter on their first child (the learner baby) but the fact at 12 she is wearing these clothes, and to a funeral of all things!!!. How is she going to be in a few more years. Tell your parents your disgust and what pedo's are thinking when they look at her