Could he be controlling?

Question

Brief scenario: I haven't had much luck in relationships but I also haven't dated much (only 2 boyfriends). I'm 20 & I'm interested in this Armenian guy who has actively began to pursue me. We met at the grocery store & he has called me pretty frequently? I went on vacation & I came back & he called me 3 times, also when I told him of my vacation, he said that we would go there too someday & also he told me that mixed children turn out to be very smart (I don't know if he said this because I'm black & he's Armenian). Maybe I am just jumping to conclusions.

At the same time, he is very handsome & has a little of a dominant streak (which I like), but he was trying to find out if I party, smoke, drink (I do none of those activities). We went on 1 date 2 weeks ago & we're going on another this next week.

I don't dress provocatively & I don't plan on giving it up to him so how do I set these boundaries & how can I find out if he is not the controlling type.

Answer 1

Talk to him,try to know him better before you make a move.

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Answer 2

The only way to know a person is to, well, get to know them. Controlling people don't have that word tattooed on their foreheads.

Spend time with him, if you like him, or think you might like him.

As far as setting boundaries, if he tries to engage you activity you aren't willing to engage in, say so. (Don't anticipate, he might not try things; just respond to whatever, whether offers of a drink, or a kiss you don't want to give).

Answer 3

Ask him about his prior relationships (and why they ended) and his relationship with his parents.  Get him to talk about his upbringing, what his parents are like, etc. Take note of his comments and reactions.  If he talks negatively or blames others for everything, I would take caution.