Could my daughters extremely bad behaviour be a sign that she is highly intelligent?

Question

My 6 year old daughter is very strong willed and to be quite frank naughty alot of the time.

We have just had her school, swimming and ballet reports at the end of term and she is really excelling in all three, as wel as comments about her attentiveness and impeccable behaviour.

I am wondering where i am going wrong? that she is so different for me.

Any advise?

Answer 1

Dont spoil her. If you do she will ruin her life when shes an adult. Because she wont understand the true meaning of life, she needs to discover it. I mean its a 6 year old...dont always be nice...tell her off if she does something naughty. Dont let her be very strong willed, calm her down. She sounds quite intelligent if shes excelling in all three. But if you want her to make something out of herself and hold a good position in life...teach her the basics of life

Answer 2

It is possible for children to act out more if they are more advanced than the classes that they are put in. However, you should teach her how to behave or start taking away priveleges.

Answer 3

Children who are very bright and curious but not being challenged enough can often get into trouble.  Sounds like your daughter fits this description.  You should talk to her teacher about it.  See if you can find ways to challenge her curiosity and keep her busy--good books, perhaps artsy activities, puzzles, etc.

Answer 4

I would defo do an online IQ test.. You never know? She could be a genius. Try the mensa IQ tests they are the best, but make sure you choose the childs IQ test lol x

Answer 5

She is different for you because you let her be. You have to be CONSISTENT and give consequence every-single-time she misbehaves.

Of course she will walk all over you if you allow it. Nothing to do with being gifted- just being a kid that knows her limits have no bounds.

Answer 6

You are doing nothing wrong. Welcome to motherhood!!!! x

Answer 7

Hi

I think it's a sign that she's lacking being disciplined, evil prospers when good people do nothing, so does bad behaviour, nip it in the bud, you're in charge, she isn't.

Ray. West York's. U.K.

Answer 8

Yes She's looking for you attention and does evrything you dont want her to do becuse she knows shes gonna be punished but also you will have to deal with her spending with her some time telling her why this is bad ...my advice regrdless of the matter is she bad or good try to spend with her as many time as possible if youre doing some work at home allow her to be presents and answer her questions if she will tease you taking away something you need to complete your work ask her does she knows  the solution for your problem (She will answer something funny propably) But she will know that her opinion matters she just wants to be aprecciated in the things you do having her do lot of stuff isnt neccesary a good thing however do not sign her off from things she already does as she will understand it as an insult rather than so share with her knowledge  ry to find her todo and make sure its not always chures becuse she might assume she's punnished also if you doing something important allow her to be near and have a luck see talk to her all the time while concentrating on your work !!!

cherish your moments with her as they will not last she's gonna be an Individual and someday it might turn out that youre have outsmarted so cherish your moments beeing intelectually superior but allow her to feel that she's the one superior also if she does something bad punish her but be extremely willing to forget if she clearly undrstands why this is Bad thats my Advice

Answer 9

everytime i got introuble she didnt care if i was smart she wanted me to be discplined so when ever i got in trouble i was over my aunts knee skirt up panties off and spanked on my little butt till it turned bright red

Answer 10

Actually I think it's a sign that she has lack of discipline in the home.  I'm sure she's a smart girl, but she manipulates you.  Put your foot down and be the parent.  You run the house, not her.  At school and her activities she knows she will receive a consequence when she acts up.  That is why she behaves there.

Answer 11

Yes, possibly.  Lot's of children misbehave when they aren't being stretched enough to satisfy them.

Answer 12

Yes if she is energetic takes part in everything and excells and is really enthusiastic that is a sign of intelligence and determination.

Also if she is really naughty at school then it could be because she is too bored and knows most things.

Answer 13

Sounds like you are not giving her enough attention or discipline at home.  Children thrive from direction, which she is taught in School, swimming and ballet.  It also could be that she needs constant stimulation mentally, which she is getting from these activities as well.  Maybe try to incorporate more activities at home.  That way she is not bored and acting up, also make sure when she is acting up that you are not babying her but correcting her.  Her behavior could be a call for attention in these cases.

Answer 14

I think the clue is in the question! What you are doing wrong is trying to 'punish' the bad behaviour out of her when what you should be trying to do is reward and encourage the good behaviour in her. This is what her ballet, swimming and whatever else you mentioned almost certainly do.

Give her back her privileges and start being nice to the poor kid. Ask her to do things in small stages and every time she gets it right lavish praise and attention on her so she wants to get in your good books. Its you that needs to change - she's a kid and is simply reacting to your parenting.

Answer 15

I don't think she needs punishment. She sounds frustrated which could be a sign that she is very intelligent and her mind won't shut off. In this case you need to be one step ahead which is difficult but some kids are wired differently.

Do you tax her mind enough? Constant stimulation by getting her to complete logic puzzles for her age, taking her to museums and getting her fascinated by telling her everything in an interesting way, lots of days out, get her to help you prepare food, cook food,bake cakes, even things like let her decorate her room when you have time & can afford it - get her deeply involved etc.. This way she's too consumed to be 'naughty'.

We tried the naughty step with our daughter who's now 20 months, she seems way above her age range - people mistake her for a 3yr old because of her conversations and abilities. Anyway the naughty step has only ever been used about 3 times max, we try to chat to her like a grown up and involve her in everything we do such as prepare food, she loves making things like cakes for her daddy. Every minute of the day is exhausting but she's not one of the children who will sit happily with a book or toy - she's a different nature & were going to encourage her to be that way.

If you keep punishing her she will keep rebelling & you'll end up hating each other, you need to pull together & as your the older-wiser one you have to take the steps to calm her down, thats why she's great at school because its constant mental & physical stimulation ! She sounds like a bright spark - that means you've been a great parent, just stop worrying and enjoy her!

Answer 16

Isnt swimming and ballet a treat she enjoys?  If she cant behave then stop taking her every week.

Answer 17

I've worked with children so several years, and something I've noticed is that some of my smarter kids do tend to act out a little. They get bored with assignments or activities that they are able to complete well before their classmates.

Your daughter might be acting out simply because she is bored, but she needs to learn her limits. Have you ever tried asking her what the problem is? Instead of going straight to punishment maybe you could talk to her. If she tells you why she's acting up and it's for a reasonable matter, then maybe you can do something to fix it.

Good behavior is possible, based on what you've said about her reports. She knows how to use you, and you have to put an end to it. Make her WANT to be on her best behavior.

Answer 18

or poor parenting.  give her limits and stick to them.  take some parenting classes, ignore the negative behaviors, and listen to her more often.

Answer 19

you quite often find that if a child is naughty at home then he/she will be good at school and if they are naughty at school they are good at home, bad behaviour doesnt mean that they are intelligent, you can have people with learning difficulties that are naughty, select a naughty step for her at home and every time she is naughty make her sit on it for a few mins, but also reward her when she is good, and encourage her with her school work

Answer 20

Extremely bad behavior is not a sign of high intelligence.  The manner in which she misbehaves, if quite creative, could be a sign of high intelligence, but extremely bad behavior is a sign of a rebellious heart and a lack of self-control.

Personally, I'd say you have a serious problem as your daughter apparently doesn't have much respect for your authority and doesn't care much about pleasing you.  She's not too old to spank if she's deliberately misbehaving.  And personally, I'd say you need to address this quickly, before she gets older and it gets worse.

Answer 21

Sounds like you have a spirited child on your hands. Which is very challenging but also amazing.

I recommend reading "Raising your spirited child" by "Mary Sheedy Kurchinka."

is your girl more persistent, sensitive, energetic, intense than most children you know? Than this is probably the book to read. It helped me figure out discipline and routine in my life...

Click on the second link, it explains spirited a bit

Answer 22

you are probably rubbish at discipline.

Answer 23

If it is her curiosity that gets her in trouble that is ok, but if its just her stubborness or ignorance then its not.