My husband and I have been married for 5 years now (I am 24 and he is 25) and usually things are great. We get along pretty well, barely ever fight but the problem is he is a giant slob. I am always cleaning up after his messes and when I try to confront him about it (i.e. leaving empty soda cans all over the house, candy wrappers all over the computer desk, crumpled paper towels on the floor and this is just the tip of the iceburg) he becomes sarcastic and just says "That's nice."
I have tried to sit him down and talk to him about how I feel but he never listens, or he'll be good for maybe a day and then falls back into his old habits. I feel like this is ruining our marriage because first if all everything now falls on me. I really don't even ask him to do much, just to clean up after himself but he won't even do that and every day when I am done with the daily chores I feel like I am completely burned out and overwhelmed (Right now I am a stay at home mother so I do have more time, but when he was out of work and staying home with our two young children he never did anything and I had to come home from an 8 hr day of work cook dinner and try to clean). I feel more like his maid than his wife and I've tried everything I can think of to get him to pitch in and help. I feel so resentful towards him that sometimes I consider divorce, but I don't want to go down that road for one it seems silly to divorce someone over not cleaning up and two because of our kids. I just feel like this is putting a giant wedge between us and he doesn't care enough about me to help out a bit. What do you think?
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