Could the miseries of my life mean that my children will be miserable too?

Question

I am nearly 50 and believe I have had a miserable life trying so hard to be a good citizen and just be happy within myself. I have never succeeded in finding true peace and acceptance of myself and now I have 3 teenagers who seem to be heading nowhere but to a live a miserable life with difficulty in communication with people as mine. Is there anyway I can overturn this pattern and help them otherwise?

Answer 1

You have to show as much positive in them as you possibly can, but try to remember that they are only teenagers and they are finding their own personalities and you don't want to try to change them just because you think they may be heading in a particular direction. As long as they are not into drugs and taking the wrong path, then they will find themselves and that is the person that they are going to be.  I have two sons who are in their early twenties now and both of them got into drugs and all that goes with it, and I would be so far the opposit from them that you would almost not believe that I am their mother; however no matter how hard I tried to change them it was always going to be their choice and nothing I could say or do was going to change that.  Just continue being the nice person and loving mother that you are and encourage your kids as much as possible and always be there for them and they will find their own way.

Answer 2

i dont mean to sound rude but it is your job to make sure your kids are happy and healthy and if you cant do that for yourself how do you expect them to.

life is hard more for some than others but at the end of the day you  can choose to be miserable or happy.

there is help out there,but besides that you can get active, find some hobbies,make some friends,study, fake it until you make it