Could these be good reasons to never have children?

Question

If someone...

- Lived in a dysfunctional home.

- Had a rough childhood.

- Is not really a kid person.

- Don't think he/she would make a good parent?

Are those perfect reasons if people never want children?

Answer 1

These aren't. A good reason is if you are here to do something more than living, working, raising kids, getting married, dying. If you are controling Homo Sapiens - you better don't have children. If you ARE Homo Sapiens - you have to have children - you were meant to have.

Answer 2

if u dont like kids then dont have them. even if you had a dysfunctional rough childhood, that doesnt mean you wouldnt necessarily be a good parent.

Answer 3

honestly, if you don't want kids don't have them. i respect that a lot more than if you did have some & treated them like dirt.

why do you care what we think anyhow???? grow up.

Answer 4

If you don't want them, then you really shouldn't have them.  I respect the fact that you are sure.  I think we are just wondering, if you are so sure, why you are asking in the first place?

Not so sure then?  They are good reasons, I thought.

But then I look at my kid and think it is soooo worth it.

Answer 5

Either you are trying to come up with excuses to not have kids or you really don't want them.  If you really are hesitating because of these excuses, maybe you just aren't ready yet.  Most people aren't sure they want kids until the kids are already here, then you wouldn't choose to live without them.  Good luck with your decision but I would say just wait, time will tell.

Answer 6

I agree with the first couple of answers.  A simple "I don't want to have kids" is more than reason enough to never have children.  It's a very responsible, mature thing to do - to 'buck society' & do what you know is right for your life.  Children deserve parents who want to parent.  Society does better as a whole if everyone is raised by people who want to be parents & who feel equipped to do so.  

A bad childhood, alone, though is no reason to think that a person *cannot* be a good parent.  That can be overcome with a desire to learn & grow.  But, the desire has to be there, along with some emotional growth & healing.

Answer 7

You don't need any reasons, just not wanting to have kids is enough. And as a mother of 4 I applaud you for being honest with yourself. if you don't want kids...more power to you. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

I can think of more...

actually I think you should think carefully about why you WANT to have a child, not why you don't. The decision to have one if bigger than the decision not to.

Answer 9

A good enough reason to not have kids is, "I don't want kids." Yes. Those are all good enough reasons... but not reasons for someone to not have kids if they wanted them.

Answer 10

yes they are.but you never know seeing your own child might bring out a change in you.