Could this be the truth?

Question

This summer my husband started doing things like going out to eat, and going off doing things alone with a single co-worker. It bothered me, but I didn't bring it up until he started treating me different. Example: When we were about to make love she called his phone and he just immediately picked it up- that was a slap in the face! And he started telling me that he was talking to her about me and that she said I was pretty, like a Geisha- then he stopped himself and said he was just kidding.

I confronted him and he quit his job and said he didn't think he was doing anything wrong. Could he really not realize that it was wrong to take her to lunch and pay for her meal, along with all of the other things he did?

I have just been so depressed because he is really distant lately. I can't get it out of my head that he might do something like this again, but worse. Anyone else been in this boat?

Answer 1

Well you believe he cheated on you, and in some way or another he did, the next move is yours.

Answer 2

No married person should spend any time alone with the opposite s*x without knowledge AND consent from their spouse.  

I see RED FLAGS all over the place.  

You need to talk to him and voice your concerns that he may STILL be doing it or he MAY do it again.  Let him know how it makes you feel and if it happens again, the consequences he will suffer. Follow through with it.

Good luck

Answer 3

it is very possible that he thought he wasn't doing anything wrong. Men are different  from women, they think that if they're not kissing or having s*x then its not cheating, but going on dates with a girl  is still infidelity.  You just need to point out that its unacceptable. Hey at least he quit his job for you. If she was really important to him he would never have quit his job. I don't think he is going to do it again because this was a reality check for him. don't bring another female friend around or your gonna get your butt kicked.

Hes probably distant because he can sense the tension from you. If your gonna forgive him, then just forgive him, if your gonna hold a grudge then why even bother.