Could you be a surrogate mother?

Question

I was just wondering your thoughts on surrogacy. Would you be able to do this for a stranger? A family member? a friend? do you think it would be hard to give the child to the mother after he/she was born? Do you think it would be harder or easier with the mother being family?

I'm just curious on how others view this.

Thanks!!!

Also, if you have been a surrogate or have had one, I would love to hear your experiences!!!!

Answer 1

I have an issue with attachment. I could never bear a child for 9 months and then hand it over to someone else. That's just me. Women do it all of the time, and I think it really depends on the woman. I don't think badly of women who do it, because it's actually pretty courageous! Giving someone the gift of parenthood is the greatest gift anyone could receive. Bless anyone who can find the strength to follow through.

Answer 2

I couldnt do it.  I've thought about it - and after having my own, I couldnt do it.  To feel the life within you move and grow and change and then one day - not.  It's not for me.  But to all those who have and do, you're awesome!  The gift you are giving someone else is amazing!

Answer 3

Sadly I could never be a sarrogate mother due to medical issues. I had to take clomid to get my own. But if in good health I would do it for a friend or family member. I think it would be hard to hand the baby over because of what a strong connection you have but you are bringing joy to someone doing it, I think it is a beautiful thing.

Answer 4

I've been toying with the idea of being a gestational surrogate mother for strangers/family/friends.

I feel in my heart that I could do this and give the gift of a child to a new set of parents, but I do not want my DNA out there if I cannot raise it.  I'm debating doing it sooner or later as if I'm unsure if I want to have more babies or not before.  As well, here in Canada, a person cannot get paid money for their time like a job.  You can only get compensation for expenditures.

Most people in my family that know about my thoughts are unsupportive.  They think it's weird and that I shouldn't do it.  My husband is supportive and said if it's something I want to do, as long as it's not a part of us leaving.

Answer 5

I'm considering being a surrogate and I would only do it for a stranger. I feel like its a gift to give, not mine to keep, and I wouldn't want a constant daily reminder of the child like if I would do it for a family member.

I think most companies require their surrogates to have their own children already -to reduce the chances the surrogate would challenge the parents to keep the baby if the surrogate used her own egg for the conception. If you didn't have any children of your own and decided to become a surrogate, then I could see how it could be hard to "hand over the baby" so to speak. You would be too attached.

Answer 6

I just had triplets a few months ago...and I have a cousin (very close) who due to cancer had a hysterectomy and cannot concieve.  After the joy of having my children I have been really thinking about having her child.  HOWEVER, now that I do have my children, I know how difficult it is to feel them growing inside you.  I don't think I could deal with a stranger, it's just too intimate of a thing...but a very very close family member I can see doing.

Answer 7

I dont know..

Answer 8

Someone asked a question re: becoming a surrogate mother. I'm not sure whether it was you or not.

But no I really don't think I could. I don't think i'm strong enough to give up the child after. But then again if I loved someone so much and they could not have a child.....then i'd think differently. But for someone I didn't know, i'm not so sure i could? (i'm just not strong enough)

Man this subject makes me so sad but happy. Imagine being able to give the present of their own biological child to someone who can't have them.  It's just amazing that people are so strong and so willing to put others before themselves.

People like that need a place on the news. I'm sick of hearing about all the bad guys, we need some goodness on the news.

Answer 9

i wish i could say yes....i would love to give that gift to someone else, but i dont think  would be able to give up a person that grew inside me id always feel they were :mine"

Answer 10

I would definitely be one for my sister, if needed. Possibly for a close friend. I don't think I would be able to be one for anyone else. I would maybe consider anyone else, if it was written, and legal, that I would be able to keep some sort of relationship, Auntie, or something, to where I would still know the child.