Could you forgive a cheating parent?

Question

i'm 17- just found out my dad cheated on my mum. i live in another country to both of them and theyre supposed to be coming over in a few days, they dont know that i know and i'm feeling so very very angry. what should i do?

Answer 1

My parents cheated on one another many times while I was growing up.  I forgave them because, even as a child, I knew that their behavior was "off".  I recommend that you realize your parents are separate entities and not perfect.  No parent is perfect.  You could discuss this matter with your father privately but don't be surprised if he feels that it is none of your business or that his responses aren't to your liking.

Good luck.  :-)

Answer 2

talk to your parents and see how they feel about it. don't tell them you know unless they dont bring it up. keep calm don't be to angry untill you hear every thing. tell them how you feel about it don't keep it bottled in. you will see that this will help with your anger.

Answer 3

Forgiveness bring healing..it doesn't change the fact that a person cheated..but you will feel so much better

Answer 4

forgive him.

there's a reason why he did it.

hes most likely not happy.

my father is also a cheating parent but he didn't cheat on my mom.

my parents aren't together.

at the moment the lady wasn't my dads wife, but he cheated on her and she went psycho.

but i knew my dad wasn't happy with her, honestly i don't know why he got back with her, i think its because its cheaper to keep her.

my mom even knew he wasn't happy.

Answer 5

That is between your Mom and Dad.  They are both your parents and you love them.  Support your Mom in whatever decision she makes concerning this and you can forgive your Dad without excusing his behavior.  You don't know the whole story and really you shouldn't.  At 17 we are idealist about many things but when you are older you will see that fairy tales don't usually come true.  Some marriages are stronger after something like this if the two people are left alone to work it out together.  Even if you are their child, in this case three is a crowd.  The one fact that you know is they love you.  They alone will have to decide if they still love each other.

Answer 6

This is a hard on.  I guess you should talk to him about it.  I know you are upset and rightly so, but listen and then say your piece