Could you help me find the best excuse to make contact with my ex bf?

Question

The case is we just broke up ( a week ago) and I don't see him anymore cuz he moved to a city 6hours away from me for his school. I didn't break up bcuz he was moving so far away. we both knew he was going to and we were prepared for it. But other issues came up and right before he left, we broke up. I still love him and i think he does too. But there is too much proud in the way now other than miles. I was actually expecting him to initiate talking cuz he knows I am the one who is broken. I would still do it but i did it many times before and i think it doesnt make a good effect on men. You know they want challenge. So I really want have his love back. I think if we talk once, we can work things out and get back together. But since I did it so many times before I don't wanna give him the feeling that I will always be the one who is calling or that I can't leave him (which is kinda true but he doesnt have to know that). So I thought maybe I can find an excuse to talk to him but he should really think I called him for that reason, not for any hope! ppfffff I dont knoooww!! plz help! what should I do?? If this is a good idea plz give me some good excuses.. I feel desperate..:(

Answer 1

you could hire a private eye

Answer 2

Tell him the truth, kinda like what i told my ex. I miss you, i miss talkign to u. Can we be friends or at least try too?

Answer 3

Instant Messenger or a social networking site such as MySpace, Facebook or Tagged would probably be best for contact.  And you don't even need a reason.  If he asks, just tell him you miss him and you wanted to chat.  It couldn't hurt anything to be honest.  If he doesn't accept that then he isn't worth it.

Answer 4

You have to analyze your situation and where you stand. Don't waste your time and energy for something that might not be. Concentrate on what your goal is for you, in the moment what you want (not your ex). He is an ex boyfriend for a reason. But if you are so desperate, then simply call and say you just wanted to hear how he is doing. Be his friend. Listen and get the signals he is sending you. Then move forward. That is all you can do now. You are probably not his priority #1. You are better than that and you will be someone else's priority. Value and respect yourself. They always come back when we are the happiest. And they will not matter anymore.

Answer 5

i think u should wait a while before u contact him

Answer 6

You don't need an excuse. Put your pride aside and write him saying "hi, whats up?"

See if he replies.

But remember: Exs are exs for a reason :)

Hope it helps..

Answer 7

call him or write him

Answer 8

If you are continually breaking up with him, how about moving on to someone who you don't need to break up with all the time?  Also, find someone who really respects you and is willing to make the first contact now and then.

If you want to contact him, you don't need an excuse.  Just reach out and say "Hi".  Ask how he is doing with the new city.  If he shows a strong interest in you then continue.  If not, then move on.  

Answer 9

tell him you're pregnant or you could have possibly given him an STD  

Answer 10

Just tell him that you need to talk to him.

If he ask why? just tell him the truth or you need him =)

Answer 11

I know how this is. haha I have so much advice i want to give but I am just going to stick with your question. It's something i have done before for multiple reason that no one needs to know :P It kind of hard to get it to work but Idk lol. I always send the person I want to talk to a text. For instance i send them a text i "accidentally" sent to them which was meant for someone else. Like if their name is Brian i will send a text with something like " hey Becca!! It was fun hanging out with you yesterday. Hey did i leave my year book in your car" or something like that. Normally the person will respond back with "what?" or "i think you have the wrong person" and sometimes they won't say anything. either way i send another text message apologizing for sending them the wrong text and act embarrassed then at the end say something like "anyways sorry for the inconvenience, glad to know your still alive and kickin though how have you been" then lol alas we are talking again

Answer 12

hes a good friend thats all i got for now or that you have a friend in that city

Answer 13

talk to him online. msn . like hey how you doing.. start with a casual talk.. and let things go naturally if nothing comes out of it. its time for u to move on

Answer 14

If it is usually you who initiates communication, then he probably knows how you feel for him.  Although it may hurt, leave him be for a while.  Once he has settled into this new city he may realise how much he misses you, OR you may both realise that you are okay without eachother.  Either way, it might be best for both of you that you let him be the one to contact you.  In the meantime, find something to distract yourself and shake up your routine like start going walking or jogging or take up a new hobby.