Couple not sending thank you notes?

Question

What do you think of a couple who never sends out thank you notes? They didn't even send thank you notes to anyone after their wedding. They went around telling people they would prefer cash as opposed to gifts as well.

Answer 1

I'm assuming they said thank you at the wedding, in which case, who cares?

It's just a pointless formality sending out thank you notes. And perhaps they are simply so busy they haven't had time.

As for asking for cash for wedding presents-this is becoming increasingly common. Many people these days set up an account for people to donate to, usually to either a) pay for the wedding or honeymoon or b) pay for their first house. I think it's kind of nice, because if you give money, you get the satisfaction of knowing their wedding/honeymoon/first home is partly down to your contribution.

Answer 2

How about sending them a thank you note thanking them for their thank you note?! That should get the message across ...

Answer 3

I think they need to learn some manners and etiquette here.   They should have learned somewhere that they need to send out thank you notes of some form especially in the case of a wedding, either written or electronic.  

  With the request of cash of gifts, it could also be that they are short on cash.   Thank you cards can be bought in bulk inexpensively at you local drug store.   If money for them was really tight, they could have used electronic thank-you cards for free at 123Greetings or similar other greeting websites.  

Answer 4

All around tacky. The next gift you send them should be a book on etiquette, but don't expect a thnk you note for that either, just hope they eventually get around to reading it.............

Answer 5

I personally think it's rude to not thank people for gifts and to ask for money instead of gifts - all gifts should always be humbly recieved, appreciated and thanked - even if they're returned later.  

Answer 6

i dont think it matters at all,as long as they said thank you at the wedding,the real problem here is you    to me you seem like a interfering busybody,you should leave the newlyweds alone and concentrate on your own life,why are you bothered anyway.

Answer 7

Personally, I think it's rude to ask for money instead of gifts, but some people say that it's ok.  Saves people the trouble of shopping and the couple doesn't have to do returns.  But as far as thank you notes, that's quite rude.  If someone took the time and money out to get something, then a small note of appreciation is a must.  

Answer 8

it's rude to tell people that you'd prefer money, but they DO have one year to send thank you cards.