Couple seeing only 2-3 times week, is that normal?

Question

My boyfriend recently felt that i smothered him too much by wanting to see him everyday. he is working but i'm not working or studying now. he feels that he seriously needs space and time for himself and was wondering if the relationship can go on.he said i have all the qualities he's been looking for in his life.he also said he likes me but doesn't love me. but he said in the future, he might love me. we're together for 2 months plus now. he doesn't really appreciate what i did for him now. he's 30 i'm 23.i didn't see him for 2 days last week and he's been nice to me when he sees me and he said he misses me. but after spending time 5 days in a row he tends to pull himself away from me again and said he needed space. i told him that i'll give him more space by seeing him 2-3 times a week. he seems to be really happy about it and said let's do that. he is a very busy person and been single for really long time before he met me. he always thinks that he just doesn't have time to finish the things he needs to do.i just hope that our relationship can go on. i don't know if i give him more space, will he like me more and be more caring to me?

Answer 1

Three times a week is like every other day!  I think that's enough!  Don't you have things you need to take care of too?  Washing, ironing, washing your hair, errands, girlfriends to see?

Answer 2

I think this relationship is a bit one sided ,your doing all the giving and his taking. Step back and look at what you need. Sorry to hurt you, but I think your doing all the running here. He might love you in the future, well that's big of him. Stop wasting your time, tell him its over.

Answer 3

First, let me preface this by saying that I only see my partner once or twice a week at most.  Until winter, it'll be rare that I see him as he's out of town a lot for work, and when he's not, he's busy coaching youth football, which takes up a great deal of his time.  Even though we don't see each other, we check in with each other a couple times each week.  And we've been seeing each other for over a year now under these terms.  It works for us.

This is just to let you know that you don't have to spend every waking moment together in order to have a good relationship.  His request to you was a valid one.  But I'm not going to say to you that seeing him two or three times a week will improve your relationship in any way.  It all depends on the two of you and how you deal with the relationship.  I suggest you try to not focus on the what-ifs and instead focus on enjoying the time you spend with your boyfriend.  Live in the moment.  And don't worry about what he's thinking or feeling when you're not together.  During the times when you're not together, focus on your own interests.

I must point out one more thing.  Your boyfriend told you he needed space.  He was letting you know how he felt and what he needed.  That's ok.  You should feel free to express to him what you're feeling and what you need in your relationship.  The communication is the most important part of a relationship.

Answer 4

Guys need space.  My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for 3.  When we were dating, we fought A LOT!  He started out in college several hours away and we could only see each other ever other week.  I missed him so much that when he came home, I wanted to be with him ever second of the day.  He moved back home later and I still wanted to spend every day with him.  Our relationship became very strained.  

Finally, he sat me down and told me that when I would act sad or mad about him wanting some time to do things by himself or his friends, it would just make him feel angry and repressed by me.  But when I would smile and say I'll miss you, have fun.  It would make him WANT to spend more time with me.  I think that most guys are the same way.  

btw we are best friends as well as husband and wife and have been perfectly happy for years now.  Him being honest in how he felt helped me change my reactions to situations and made us much closer as a couple.