Cousin????? any advice?

Question

my cousin is 33 and im 17 to make a long story short me and my mom don't talk really anymore so my cousin is kinda filling that void. when i was younger my cousin wasnt in my life really she was on drugs and was never around she has 3 years clean and sober now. i work with her a few nights of the week. well for some reason i get the feeling my cousin dosent love me. like we have deep heart to heart talks alot but if i tell her i love her she never says it back. she treats me like im one of her own kids. shes my best friend. we have a very close relationship. my cousin has been hurt in the past i know that but is it possible she afraid of getting hurt again? like she never really tells people she loves them and she never really lets people in.

she talks to me about some of her issues but she dosent open up that much.

anybody have anything to say about this? =]

Answer 1

my advice, don't worry about it.

Answer 2

she's a ***** get new friends.

Answer 3

My granpa is like that with my dad. My dad will say I love you to him on the phone (it's his dad, not his father in law) and my grandpa never says it back. My dad think it might just be a gender to gender deal or something, because my granpa won't say it to his other son but he will say it to his daughter.

Answer 4

First of all you are cousins and maybe you are sending the wrong signals, and she is afraid you may cross the "line". Then of course you have stated she wasn't in your life when you were young, she was into drugs and who knows what else. To her credit she has kicked the habit and been clean 3 years, but that is probably not the whole story. You can bet she went through some terrible experiences and these memories will last a lifetime. Instead of worrying about her saying I love you, be happy she has made so much progress and is there for you to fill the void your mother has left.  Words are only words, it is actions and deeds that tell you if she really cares. Accept the relationship you have and be satisfied with that, remember trust is something not easily given, time is the answer.

Answer 5

Alot of people in my family have the same problem. Instead of say i love you they say "love it". and my aunt refuses to even hug her own daughter i am sorry you are going through this but it is just something that alot of people do. I would suggest to stop saying i love you for a while and see if she says it to you.