Crazy mother in law..?

Question

Shes disliked me since i wouldnt convert to her spiritual veiws.. im having a baby in 2 weeks and dont feel comfy around her and dont trust her what do i do? i want whats good for my baby but b/c im not comfy around her i sure dont want my baby with her help..

Answer 1

Sometimes people who are overly religious are confrontation angry people. Maybe that's your mother-in-law.

You need to focus on the newborn baby NOT your mother-in-law. The best thing you can do is to get along with her. You'll need her as a babysitter so kiss her @ss as much as possible.

Answer 2

tell her how you feel. she must have issuses if she has to get involved in your pregnancy. this is happening to you not her. she has had her time and if she feels she has made a mistake with her own children she may want to guide you in what she feels like is best but we all have to make mistakes to learn from them id be honest and ask her to back off as her belifs are not the same as yours and its worrying for you witch also means its worrying for the baby im sure she wouldnt want that. stay strong its your life x

Answer 3

Hey you are the mother of your own child. If you feel that you dont want your mother in law involved then dont let it happen.

But I should advise you that you shouldn't let that be a reason why she cant see her grandchild. What does your husband feel about it? And its very wrong that she doesnt like you because you wouldn't convert. That is just wrong. But when it comes down to it, it is up to you on what you want to do with your child. Talk with it with your husband. See what he saids. And maybe you can talk to your mother in law. Tell her how you feel, even the part of converting you to their religion. Thats not right.

Hope everything goes well with you and congrats on the baby!!!

Answer 4

Poor you! I couldn't even imagine having a overbearing mother in law pushing her religion on me!! I would say, get your husband to deal with her - his number one priority should be you and your baby so he will have to sort his mother out. It's YOUR baby so she will have to conform to YOUR rules around him/her. Don't let her push you around! If she doesn't back off, then I would say you don't need to see her at all, your husband can be around her if she comes to visit the baby occasionally. All the best of luck!!

Answer 5

Then tell her to back off.

Answer 6

I suggest you keep your distance and let her know you respect her choice of religion but are not going to convert.  If you think she will not look to instill her beliefs to your child when your back is turned just know that she will.  Since she is this pushy and can not let it go actions speak louder then words.  You don't hand your child over to a wacko just because they gave birth to your husband.  Being a grandparent is a privilege not an obligation.  

Just wondering why your husband is not dealing with his mother.  Maybe he can suggest a luncheon with her church friends, then she might have something to do and make a life of her own.

Answer 7

dont you hate that when you get married, you get the family that comes with them? yes, we all deal with it, i feel the same way about my MIL, i dont want her around the baby unless im there, yes, shes your childs grandmother but, its YOUR baby, not hers, and its not for her to say what your spiritual views should be, i dont know how ur husband is, but mines a complete mommas boy so if thats the case then u dont have a choice when it comes to her seeing a baby, but you dont have to leave her alone w it or let her babysit, she can visit just like friends do, eh iv never been partial to mother in laws but if u dont want ur baby with her then be nice but dont compromise your comfort for hers or ur hubbys.

Answer 8

hon, This is your man's mother, it is up to him to set down some boundries. If you guys can make a list and lovenly give it to her.

Tell her you want her in your life and she is sooooooo important to the baby and you guys are just putting out some boundries, so that all goes well.

butter her up so she feels important

Answer 9

Well don't convert, she'll get over it.

BUT......NEVER, NEVER use your child as a pawn to hurt your mother-in-law!!!

That is selfish, immature and controlling!  That child is her grandchild and she deserves to have a relationship with him/her.  You will be hurting your own child in the long run if you do.

Your relationship with your mother-in-law has NO bearing on your child's relationship with their Grandmother.  You are using that as an excuse to keep your child away.