Crossdresser wants to buy a wedding dress?

Question

I am a 28 yearld sissy crossdresser and as far back as I can remember I have always wanted to have a wedding dress. I know this might sound quite odd to some people and I am sorry if you are offended by this. I have heard from another crossdresser who went to davids bridal to try on gowns. I actualy called my local davids and they entusiastcly were like come on in we help all customers.

However my biggest fear is making a sales associate or even worse another bride uncomfortable. Its such a special process in a girls life and I dont want to be a weird memory in it.

My question is would you feel really uncomfortable if you saw a crossdresser trying on gowns at the same time as you? And if you have any other advice about how to do this Id like to hear it. thanks

Answer 1

I'm sure many if not most sales clerks and associates would be real weird about this. See, a lot of people think crossdressing is just a fetish, and you're never gonna buy the stuff, or if you do, you'll just m********e over it. But, there's of course a rainbow of crossdressing that blurs into being transgendered (sissy/soft boy, you say?). Just remember that the customer's always right, and let gender essentialists reach for the Tums. It's their loss, and not your problem.

Answer 2

I would go to a costume store...that is probably where crossdressers buy most of their clothes.  If Davids Bridal wants you to come in, make the appointment more towards closing time and ask your salesperson if there is a private area where you can try on gowns in private not to make any of the other brides to be uncomfortable.  

Answer 3

It wouldn't make me uncomfortable, but I could see how it might make others uncomfortable. As long as you smile and are respectful that is what matters. I remember going to try on my dress. One of the brides was such a spoiled brat - her whining was enough to make me want to just walk out...I'd much rather have a friendly crossdresser then a spoiled princess.

Maybe you can call David's Bridal and ask them what time and day they usually don't have a ton of customers in the store. This way you won't have a ton of brides there...

Good luck!  

Answer 4

I would think it would bring a little light heartedness to the occasion. Go for it, and have fun!

Answer 5

Some people may feel weird about it. That is just how people are.

I might try to go in at a slow time and let the store know beforehand and you'll probably shock them less or at least lessen the awkwardness. As long as you are polite and intend to purchase, (you aren't just going there to make fun) they will probably be more than happy to work with you.

Another option would be to buy a dress from an online retailer or have one made specifically for you.

Answer 6

Don't be silly, you are entitled to shop for dresses just as much as the bride next to you.  You are doing nothing wrong.  If you feel uncomfortable and don't want anyone else to feel uncomfortable, maybe a smaller bridal shop is the way you should go.  There is often only 1 or 2 appointments at a time.  Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 7

You go girl!!

Answer 8

Actually, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all.

If you want a wedding dress, then get one. Everyone who wants a wedding dress deserves one.

Best wishes.

P.S. Did you really tell them [The people at David's Bridal] that you were a cross dresser? If so, that must have taken amazing guts.

Answer 9

What I suggest is that you call a local bridal or dress shop and explain your situation before going in.  You shouldnt be ashamed to say it is for you, but do spare them from explicit details.  Remember that those shops are in business to make money, so they normally wouldnt turn down a request from a serious customer, even if the customer had an unconventional reason for wanting such an item.  If you and the shop are comfortable with it, schedule a fitting appointment and stress that you want to be discreet about it.  Remember to be very courteous and respectful with whoever is working with you.

Answer 10

Honestly I would probably be a little thrown by it, perhaps you could schedule an appointment during the week when they are not so busy. That way you can still go, but won't have to worry about who you are offending or making uncomfortable,

Answer 11

If another bride feels uncomfortable with it- that's her problem, not yours. Do you maybe feel a little ashamed or insecure? Don't! Who cares what other people think?

If you really feel that uncomfortable about it, do like someone above mentioned and make an appointment at a smaller shop where you will have an hour all to yourself. Of the last 10 times I've been in to my bridal shop picking up all kinds of junk that I forgot before, only twice was there someone else in there.  Sometimes the smaller shops charge more, but if you find a dress you like there you can then order it from the David's Bridal website if cost is an issue for you.

Best wishes!  

Answer 12

I used to own a bridal shop and had a similar situation.  I had a very nice customer who did drag shows & pageants and would buy gowns & jewelry from me.  

He was very sensitive to the other customer's level of comfort with him, so he would call me before he came & ask if we were busy.  He would also usually wait til either the end of the day or first thing in the morning when we were likely to be less busy.

He usually used either the restroom or the back employee's area to try on with me helping.  I did have some staff who were uncomfortable helping him zip & stuff, so I waited on him myself.

You might offer to do the above also when you call or visit a store.  I really appreciated it as a store owner!