Crossdressing problems??

Question

i am not sure this is the right section for asking this but i ask anyway I started to cross-dress when i was 17 and i love it and been doing it ever since but i want to get more out of it like being more female like a boob job but is it safe to do and and how abut your family i mean they don't know yet but i plan on telling then but how can you tell them you want to be more female then male .

yes i am a male and please nnegativee or nasty messages

Answer 1

be honest with your family, they may surprise you.  if you plan on living as a woman breast implants are fine. but it usually takes time on female hormones to give you enough breast tissue for you to have room to accomadate them. but if you are ready for the challenge of hiding them while in male mode go for it. if more men were willing to find their feminine side our world would be a better place

Answer 2

If you are not planning on transitioning to live as a female, this is a very bad idea.  How do you hide them when you are in male mode?  This will impact every aspect of your life.  Finding and holding a job, socializing and maintaining friendships, and finding a long term partner.

I am a pre-op transsexual who has been on hormones for over 3 years.  I wear an A cup bra and this gives me enough challenge with what I can wear in male mode.  Any larger and I would have a lot of trouble hiding the fact that I have b*****s.  Having b*****s is not what males fantasize that it is like.

Answer 3

If you have a MALE gender identity this is a BAD idea.  How do you hide them?  What if you lose your job because of it?  If you're male stick with breast forms.

Now if you're unsure of your status I would speak with a gender therapist:

http://www.DrBecky.com/therapists.html

Answer 4

Okay, well you really need to consider if you really want to bother with having b***s. When you want to go out as male, do you want to have to bind every time? Also, the best way to develop b*****s is via estrogen injections (and no herbals or anything that isn't prescribed by a doctor--this has taken lives and is extremely dangerous). And if you do take estrogen you'll naturally develop b*****s but you'll also appear more female in other ways too, your fat patterns will change, the texture of your skin, everything.

Just really think of any possible consequences in this, but you never know if you don't try, right? Ask yourself if it's worth it.

Also, do you feel more female than male? That's another thing to ask yourself.

a website for crossdressers, transsexuals, androgynes, transgender, and other gender-variant people that is very helpful (forum community=very supportive and helpful) is http://lauras-playground.com/

Good luck, whatever path you decide to take.

Answer 5

I would google search glbt community centers and find one near you.  They might have trans programs there.  

Use the internet and look up transgender issues.  Check out g*y.com, planetout, doorq, gayusa and also search itunes for podcasts on transgender issues.

If you think your family will throw you out, don't tell them until you can take care of yourself.  If you think your family will accept you then just be honest.  In general I would try and wait until you have a place of your own and a job and be over 18 so that if things go bad - you don't have to do what they say.  But you definitely should tell them.  Honesty is always the best policy.

Answer 6

I have heard of people wanting to go the step further to make them feel more female.  I don't have any idea easy ways to break it to your family.  There are lots of support groups online and in communities where people with issues similar to yours share their experiences and give advice.  You might find some ideas from a person who has been through telling their family.  One thing to consider before you go with a surgical enhancement ... a lot of people come to a point years after the surgery that they want their body back to the way it was originally.  Be selective in what you do to prevent permanent regret because there isn't a surgery to fix that!

Answer 7

Please go to a counselor or a Church Pastor and get help. You can be sick in the mind.