Cruelty scams to Prospective adoptive Parent?

Question

In the beginning of trying to adopt (I'm now trying to go through social services, and they are supposed to teach the classes in my area in 8-9 months), I placed an ad to adopt. So many people from other countries have tried to scam me for money. Has anyone else had this happen? And-How can they be so cruel. I always have wanted more children, but can't get pregnant.

Answer 1

How awful! I have seen ads like you talk about in the local papers. I have always wondered if they get a lot of attention. I wish it could have worked out for you, but I am glad you have decided to try adopting from the foster care system! I was shocked to see how long it is going to be before you can start your training. We had to wait 4 months because the first class was full, but 8 to 9 months seems crazy! Are there other cities near you that might offer the training? I would check around and see if you can get in to any of them sooner!

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 2

Yes people can be like that its wrong but they are just trying to get thousands of dollars out of people. They know some are desperate for a baby. Good for you deciding to do it the right way it might be a bit longer but the only risk you really would have is if the PBP (Potential Birth Parents) changed their minds even then a good agency will find another PBM for you.

Answer 3

I applaud you for doing this the ethical way this time around.  When you skirt the system, and when your needs are more important than the needs of the child, then you can expect to get scammed.  That's life.

ETA:  Maybe I should clarify, because I may have misunderstood what you were saying.  What I meant by doing this the ethical way is that it sounds as if you're adopting through foster care this time, which sounds to me like you may have begun to come to terms with the fact that adoption is a service to find children for families who need them, not a way to fulfill your desire for a baby.  When you consider your desires to be more important than doing what's right for a child, you open yourself up for all kinds of scammers who will take advantage of your desperation for human flesh.  Lose the desperation, work for what's RIGHT instead of what you want, and you'll avoid all those scammers.  So, if I was congratulating you for something you're not actually doing, I take it back.  I'm hoping that by "social services", you mean DHS.

Answer 4

Yes, this happens everytime. I still get Emails all the time even though we have completed our most recent adoption. They say they are in Camarron (biggest offender) the UK is another one I see alot though it almost always leads back to Camaroon. One time this guy even sent me pictures of his "8 month old daughter" he was placing because his wife died in an accident (as most of the stories go). He gave me 6 pictures. Problem was, they were 3 different kids! One was even an older boy!

Join the adoption scams yahoo group. Its a must for anyone adopting. If you have any questions about what is real or not, you just post the Email to the forum and most of the time other people have gotten the same thing as well. Don't fall for any of it. If they are not in the US, its a scam.

Also, people place ad's all the time for adopting. This is part of networking. You have to let people know you are there and available. I see some are saying its skirting the system or somehow the wrong way. Submitter never said she wasn't getting her homestudy or going through proper channels and legals for adopting. I mean, I don't know she DID but I just wanted to point out that lots of qualified people place ad's of some sort.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry you have been treated like that! I have no idea why people would do something like that. I hope everything works out for you...