Crush On Daughter's Teacher...?

Question

I have a crush on my daughter's PE teacher. My daughter is 3 and in preschool. I know he is not married and not dating anyone (another teacher told this to our nanny). He messaged me on myspace asking where we (my daughter and I) had been as he had not seen us. I told him we were taking the month off to vacation and would resume school beginning of Sept. Then I threw in the, maybe we could get together or something sometime!

He never responded! What does this mean? He's gone out of his way to compliment my daughter several times while in front of me and even added me on myspace. But now when I attempt to let him know I'm interested, he does nothing. What do you think?

I'm not married either, BTW.

I should know this as I'm an adult, but how can you tell if someone is interested? Do you think it means anything that he didn't respond?

Answer 1

Just do it!!! Ask him whats up.  Invite him for coffee.  You already went out on a limb, so just climb the rest of the tree.  Best of Luck!!!

Answer 2

sure...

Answer 3

Yikes! This is tricky!

I'm  a teacher and have been hit on and let me tell you that it was major uncomfortable. Some teachers are just super friendly - it's in our job to be social and often we are kinder to those students/families that we adore. When kids don't come to school, of course we want to know why. That doesn't mean he is interested.  I don't know about Preschool rules but in a public school setting, it is considered a huge NO NO to react to a parents advances. If it were me, I would even involve my principal. I don't think he should have contacted you via My Space - not appropriate.  I think it was a sign that he didn't respond - he probably didn't want to cross that line.  Drop it if I were you. At least wait until your daughter leaves the school to pursue.

Answer 4

Your name is tacos... figure it out.

Answer 5

he's not interested and you totally overstepped your boundaries. now he will be uncomfortable around u and your daughter. he's just gonna try to avoid u .  i suggest looking for another school.  you've made the sitation awkward.

Answer 6

Possibly he is just busy with a lot of things. Or maybe he has had a bad past and isnt ready for something new. You never know. But maybe if he didnt say anything back then you should just wait for him to talk to you. He might not be interested or might not want a relationship at the moment. Just wait and see how things turn out. Don't mention you wanting to go out with him again because if he wants to go out with you then he will ask you. Know what i mean?

Answer 7

Maybe he is just really nervous. But when you get back from vacation, you can just call him or something to let him know your feelings.

Answer 8

He doesn't like you.

Answer 9

It sounds like you have made several attempts to let him know you are interested, and he hasn't responded.  The kinds of things he HAS done sound like the normal things one might do with the parents of one of your students.  I would lay off.  He just doesn't sound interested.

The only other possibility is that he could be an ethical person and not believe in dating the parents of his students.  If you are still interested when your daughter is no longer at this preschool, you could make one more attempt.  If he doesn't respond, leave him alone.

Answer 10

I don't know if there are any teachers who have answered you here, but I am one and everybody is missing what might be the obvious: the PE teacher might not want to date you because of the effects that would have on his relationship with your daughter/his student.  I know I would never date a parent of any child I had in a class.  It would create an awkward situation between me and the child.  If the relationship would later go south, that would make it REALLY awkward!

Answer 11

lol

Answer 12

i think that you are crossing the line,i don't think it's right to date your child's teacher,even if your not married

Answer 13

Well, complimenting your daughter is one of those things that he may be doing because he's a teacher and he wants you to know that he thinks you have a great kid and he's glad to have her as a student.  If you look too deeply into teachers' compliments about your daughter, you're going to have a lot of awkward situations over the next several years.  Then again, the fact that he contacted you on your myspace page seems strange.

When your daughter starts back to school, don't say anything about your message.  He knows you're interested, and if he is and doesn't feel it will be an ethical problem.  (As a pre-school p.e. teacher, it may not be a big deal.  Then again, he is a teacher and may feel uncomfortable with dating you.)  If he continues to praise your daughter, but doesn't actually bring up going out, then chalk it up to the fact he thinks you have a great kid and she's a great student.  Then let it go and move on.

Answer 14

Show him your **** and you'll have a husband in no time!

Answer 15

When someone is interested in you, they'll quickly look away when you catch them looking at you. As to why he's not responding, he's most likely nervous.

Answer 16

he sounds more like a diligent teacher rather than a potential date.  I'd let it rest and be glad your daughter might get some male influence in her life.

Answer 17

Message him again, saying "are you interested or not?  Sh*t or get off the pot."  That'll get his attention!

Answer 18

you sound like a sixteen year old highschool girl

grow up, he hates you

Answer 19

Just try dropping a few more hints, he'll get the picture soon enough and give you a definate yes or no as to if he likes you.