Crush on a coworker. Why do I feel so guilty?

Question

I have a crush on a coworker and I'm pretty sure he has a crush on me too. We sit next to each other. We always take a morning and afternoon break together and occasionally will go out to lunch together. He has a girlfriend of a little over 2 years that he lives with and I have a boyfriend of 9 years that I live with (yes, he's still only a boyfriend and yes, I'm a bit sour about that.)

When this coworker gets a haircut, I compliment him and he'll offer to let me run my fingers through his hair. (He knows I like doing that to my boyfriend) I ALWAYS decline. Well a couple days ago, he got a haircut and was looking good. I complimented him and he offered to let me run my fingers through his hair. I declined and went about my work.

We went out for lunch and about 30 minutes after we got back, he rolled over to my desk and said, “Go for it.” And tilted his head over for me. I didn’t want to do it. So, he snatched up my hand and ran it through his hair anyway.

I loved it and wanted to go back for more. But I didn’t, and I can’t stop thinking about it or him. I feel like I'm losing it over here.

So here are my questions:

Why do I feel so guilty?

Am I doing anything wrong?

What would you do in this situation?

Answer 1

You just touched his hair, its not like you slept with him! Oh, and if I were in a relationship for 9 years and had nothing more than a boyfriend, I would be TICKED!

So, maybe it is time to be traveling on anyway.