Crush on my fiances coworker?

Question

Okay- I am 25 yr old female. My fiance is 31. We have 2 kids- ages 2 and 7.

He is a coach of a pretty major junior baseball team. We have been having the odd kid stay with us when necessary, during tryouts, etc.

Last week we had a 20 yr old guy stay with us- "Marcus".

He was here for 4 days.

During those 4 days, him and I jsut "Clicked". We had to spend a lot of time together, because of shatty weather preventing any tryouts or games. The kids love love love him, and he was so helpful and a pleasure to have around. We hung out and watched a movie, and chatted late into the night.

My fiance and I have been having some issues for a while now, and have been going to counselling. He works 70 hours a week, and moved us into a rural farmhouse hours from friends and family. When he is around he's moody and withdrawn. I have tried talking to him about this, about how lonely I am. he ignores it and says I will "get over it"

so now... I have a big crush (which is stupid because I'm 25 and a mom for gad sakes!) on this baseball player. He just... paid attention to me and actually seemed to give a c**p what I was thinking.

NOW I am all shook up- getting married in a month, and I am thinking about other guys, and am freaked out that I am thinking about how it would be fun and just great to have a guy pay attention to me- and it doesn't help that Marcus is SOOO cute, has a nice accent (georgia), and is excellent with the kids.

I'm not sure if I'm worried about the crush or the fact that I LIKE having a crush on someone who pays attention to me...

How can I get over this and make it so I don't think about Marc all the time?!

Answer 1

I can't imagine destroying your family because of a guy you spent four days with. Yes it is nice when a guy pays a lot more attention to you than your husband. But he is working 70 hours a week. Try to plan a nice honeymoon were you have time for each other.  

Answer 2

As a 20 year old male, I can bet you marcus is no where near ready to settle down and take care of kids. my bet is he was being polite and he is just good with kids. You were letting him stay in your house so naturally he was being nice.

Maybe you need to put off the wedding for a while and work things out with the coach, but I would not fret over marcus.

Good luck

Answer 3

O, you are definetly not ready to get married! It may just be because you feel your fiance detaching from you( that is a huge red flag itself) and you like the attention from this cute guy. If I were you I would tell your fiance you want to postpone the wedding until you can figure out why he is behaving this way. Try to stay away from Marcus in the meantime. If you still don't feel like getting married then don't. Marriage isn't going to save your relationship, trust me. Just out a time limit on the decision and stick to it, then you can honestly say you tried everything.

Answer 4

Think about your husband. Don't think about what he isn't doing right now. In the past, what did your husband do that made you fall in love with him? If you love him, you should stay with him through the good and BAD times. The other guy is only 20 years old, he probably hasn't even experience life yet. Forget him, think of him as a younger brother because he listens to you. He is just a friend. Your husband is stress, so do something for him to help him. Write little notes to your husband or something.