Crush or love...?..either way i want her?

Question

ok so im 17 (legal in uk) and ive left school about 2 months ago...and im really crushing on a teacher ..i've like her all year..and i know she has some feelings for me back?because of things that went on in the year she taught me. whats the best way to see her again and maybe ask her out or something..although she has a boyfriend but i know they're not serious. p.s. i went in the other day and handed books back...i spoke to her for ages....and i havent been able to get her out my head for months..

Answer 1

that's a tricky one how can you be sure she really likes you like you think because she would be in a whole heap of s**t if that was the case and I doubt she would risk anything I know how you feel I was just like that at your age and now at 31 I feel as though I can give you wise words when I say I think she is just very friendly to you and you have a major crush so may be reading her signals wrong I would give it six months and then try to approach her with something NOT to do with school work because this will just remind her how old you are try saying can I take you for a drink somewhere sometime I really like you and really want to stay in touch.

Answer 2

That's a cute story. Just visit the school, talk to her, have lunch, get her phone number, and then.. after a couple get-together, if she sends you noticeable signals.. tell her how you feel.

Answer 3

I understand what you are going through as I have been there...... just that in my case I was in college and I was in love with my lecturer for a number of years even after I finished. I believe that true love can exist regardless of age, race, religion and status. However, there are a couple of factors to consider that affect situations like these...that I've learnt from my experience....

If you suspect or are certain that it is mutual attraction, then I wouldn't discourage you from trying to develop a relationship with her. Definitely keep in contact perhaps online (email, facebook etc). But I would advise giving it a few more months before venturing to go out with her as you may still be perceived as a student even though you've finished. You all would need to view each other more as good friends outside of the previous teacher/student positions.

Secondly, there is the factor of age which may not be an issue if you all do not see it as a major issue. But still prepare yourself for some challenges that come with a big age difference in couples. If you all have things in common and like to hang out and engage in similar activities for fun, then age may not be a problem at this point. But also consider that she may desire/need different things in this stage of her life to you. In my case, I was looking to save for a car and she was looking to change cars... She was buying a house and I couldn't even consider an apartment for various reasons...She was accustomed to travelling to Spain for a vacation and I couldn't afford that. These things may seem minor but they tend to reinforce the older person's independence and highlight the differences instead of the similarities in the relationship. So these are just some things to keep in mind...

Finally, if you all start to go out together, please ensure that she is single again and that you are not being used at all. It wouldn't be healthy, emotionally and physically, for you to be with her if her bf is still around nor would it be fair to you, her or her bf. Also, if you all go out together, have fun but be discreet. Avoiding public displays of affection would be in her best interest as she would have more at risk in terms of her career etc.

Wishing you all the best!